The Sibling Trap

What happens when something doesn't feel in alignment anymore?What happens when your goals feel further out of reach?Katrina shares about a new chapter of reevaluation within her life and with her kids.What kind of example are we setting for our children regarding hobbies and living a full life?Are we more focused on chasing the dollars and accomplishments/accolades, or are we soaking up the opportunities to be present and more self-aware with what our bodies are craving?How are you simplifying your life right now? We'd love to hear in our DMs on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap

In a relationship, why are so many quick to leave rather than stay and make it work?Both Barry and Katrina have experienced divorce and discuss the weight of staying versus leaving when kids are involved.What are appealing aspects that may motivate some to leave a relationship? What uncomfortable things are they avoiding when leaving?Katrina shares a milestone she and her significant other experienced that showed healing and consideration for each other.How do your past relationships influence the patterns you continue into new relationships? Are you having the hard conversations early on to build a strong foundation or coasting through the honeymoon phase without intentionality?We'd love to hear your perspective on this question over on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap 

Coming from two different ends of the spectrum, how are we navigating co-parenting?Barry has a few years ahead of Katrina in this category, and he shares a bit about a recent revelation of how far he’s come with his ex.Katrina is just starting this co-parenting journey as she’s in the middle of a divorce.How can you focus on respectful communication daily and during certain circumstances? Focusing on being fair with finances regarding children, is it petty, or is it smart?*Announcement* For the time being, given our chaotic schedules in this season of life, we are going to BI-weekly episodes moving forward!Thank you so much for your support. We’d love to hear about your experience in co-parenting over in our DMS @TheSiblingTrap!

The very heated debate of man vs. bear has led us to today's episode.Women are sharing about why they would feel more comfortable seeing and being alone with a bear in the woods than with a random man in the woods.But I propose a question to Barry and put him on the spot by asking what he is doing to help women feel safer in the world. This is the perfect reason to be more mindful and compassionate to those around you and how others are affected by how you carry yourself through the world.For men, how are you being intentional with your actions every day when you're out and about to make others feel safe?Share your methods/tendencies/routines with us over on IG @TheSiblingTrap!

Barry comes into the conversation with a unique perspective on his work as a social media specialist for a gun manufacturer and the trouble he has promoting the mission or community within the firearms industry.   With an extensive history within the military, he’s rarely been without a weapon in the jobs he’s had until now.   Katrina has a vastly different stance on this. As a mom, she is personally very resistant to embracing this topic.   What do YOU feel comfortable with when it comes to weapons?  How can we be equipped to defend ourselves if needed, and how can we protect our children in today’s reality?  Do you lean more towards Barry’s beliefs on firearms or more towards Katrina and her hesitancy to acquire the skills or products?Come and share your opinions with us on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap!

When you're in a dark place, compliments just hit differently. Sometimes you are questioning people's motives for giving compliments in the first place. But then there are times when you're so emotionally fragile that you can't let yourself really feel the compliment because you could spontaneously become a puddle of tears. Katrina started a new job recently and talks about the imposter syndrome that comes along with learning new things and receiving praise from others.Do you feel confident to receive compliments from others? Or are you quick to clap back with several reasons why you aren't worthy of them?Chime in and let us know your point of view over on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap!

Can using social media as a dating app be a more respectable way to meet someone in today's society? Or do you feel that meeting someone in person out at a bar or somewhere similar?Barry and Katrina discuss what to do if someone messages you repeatedly on social media. What messages should you reply to, and what types of messages are red flags?We'd love to hear your opinion on this matter. Head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and let us know!

In today’s society, it can feel like society is against us when entering a new relationship. The scrutiny and outside opinions can dampen the start of something new and help you see red flags you may be overlooking.  Would you/do you share your spouse or significant other on social media? Why or why not?  Is it a red flag if someone does NOT want to go public with your relationship?Similarly, would you share about a breakup on social media?  Katrina and Barry reflect on their differing stances on this topic and whether they would do things differently next time.Head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and share your feedback! 

Navigate White Water Rapids or navigate a relationship after a divorce/ breakup, then add kids to the fun…?Hand me a paddle!There are moments in life that define us as parents. How do you move forward and continue to seek the best interests of your kids? It can be tough to trust new people we bring into their lives.Katrina and Barry dive into the rapids (pun intended) of the cautions of bringing fly-by situationships into your home. They discuss moving forward into healthy relationships and setting good examples for our kids to emulate. We'd love to hear your opinions in our Instagram DM @TheSiblingTrap

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who knew what you needed before asking for it?Have you gone out of your way to do kind things for your partner, knowing that it would make their life easier? Katrina and Barry talk about their different seasons of life currently, one single and one in a relationship, and how partners have stepped up and done considerate things for them that may be overlooked or taken for granted by others. What is your experience in green flag mind reading within your relationship? Head to Instagram and share with us; we'd love to learn more about you!

Rage.We all feel it.But how are we preventing it mindfully?We don't have to always resort to negative coping or projecting onto those around us because we feel rage.Both Barry and Katrina discuss how your partner can be a positive source of support in these moments and the negative spiral that begins to happen when the partner is not supportive. Your mental health is so important, and we want you to be someone you're proud of.If you realize that you need to make adjustments in your life but lack the support or accountability to do so, Katrina's membership for women could be a great fit for you as you say hello to your favorite version of yourself!You can check out more info here:https://yourfriendkatrina.myflodesk.com/membershipAnd, if you want to dabble in meditation, check out Barry's episode all out here!As always, head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and share your thoughts or experiences with us!

Have you ever noticed that every time you get close to someone, you feel like you would just be better off alone?Too often people create misconceptions about the depth of a relationship or rush into expressing love *cough cough lovebombing* rather than allowing those feelings to flow naturally.In this episode, Barry reflects on his decision to remain single and give up the chase for love while Katrina provides intuitive feedback about what could cause this paradigm shift.Come share your thoughts and feedback on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap

We take things to the next level with deep conversation prompts to get to know each other better and understand ourselves more. Questions we touched on in today's episode are:What is something people believe about you that isn’t true?  Do you show your full or true self around others?  Do you feel like people assume that you have everything together but really struggle behind the scenes?  What characteristics do you admire most in others?  Is there a part of yourself that you feel like you need to hide from me?  How would you spend your last day?  What are you currently worried the most about in your life?  What do you believe in that you don’t have proof of?  What would you do if you weren’t afraid? I hope you found yourself thinking about your answers to these through our conversation. We'd love to hear from you and your perspective on any of the things we touched on (or if you have another idea to cover in future episodes), please head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and share!  

"What did I do (or not do) to make you seek attention elsewhere?"Have you ever been in a position where you felt that you were the reason your partner wasn't loyal to you?We peel back the layers of experiencing a partner cheating on you on today's episode of The Sibling Trap podcast.What red flags are often overlooked?What are gray areas that could be misconstrued or misinterpreted?How do impulsive or intentionally disrespectful decisions affect the other person?Barry shares a bit of his struggle to move forward in his healing journey after experiencing a painful situation with an ex. Do you have insight on this topic? We'd love to hear your story or perspective around this or how you are healing after being on the receiving end of infidelity.Head over to @TheSiblingTrap on Instagram and share what you are comfortable with. 

As Katrina moves through her divorce, things are coming up for her as she steps into a role as a breadwinner.How is she keeping a positive mindset with so much financial uncertainty moving forward?What are her worries going from a stay-at-home mom with a side job to a full-on supporter of herself and the children?How have Barry and Katrina adjusted their spending habits during months when money is a bit tight?Please head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and share your opinions. Are you a breadwinner? What are the worries you've had or obstacles you face in your scenario?

What is the best etiquette while navigating divorce with kids?How should the dynamic with extended family or in-laws change?Katrina shares her current struggle with this and gives insight into what she expects moving forward while helping others understand how a family could support moms through this hard chapter.Sharing about this on the podcast is difficult, but we created this space to have the hard conversations to connect as a community and understand different perspectives.Barry shares a bit about his recent breakup and what he's learned through that experience. What if you meet someone incredible and makes you feel so happy, but can't physically be in the same place as them because of distance?Life is full of ups and downs, but we are thrilled to be on this ride together (and with you!).We want to hear about your stance on these topics.Head over to @TheSiblingTrap on Instagram and share your opinions.

What does it feel like when you're finally in a secure relationship?Was there an invisible string tying you to each other all along?It's so fascinating seeing how there were moments where things ALMOST happened that would have brought two people together earlier.What if your soulmate is already in your life, but you've been all in on other relationships, preventing you from entertaining what could be possible with someone else.We also touch on an activity that you can implement consistently as a couple to strengthen your relationship.We'd love to hear your thoughts! Comment below or DM us on insta @TheSiblingTrap 

Will you know when you meet your soulmate?Is it possible to move too fast when you DO meet them?Do you feel it's more natural to go fast in relationships as an adult when you feel a once-in-a-lifetime connection?It seems we never know what's around the corner for us or what the universe has in store for us.If you're in the thick of it, please keep going.Please keep holding onto hope.We want to know your feedback! Head over to IG @TheSiblingTrap and share your thoughts with us. 

In today's episode, Katrina and Barry sit down and discuss the sacrifices men are making to have a successful career.The pressure that society is under to have a well-paying job is costing us in a variety of ways.What type of time, social, financial, and mental sacrifices are you willing to make in order to feel comfortable?Would love to hear your takeaways!Send us a DM over on IG @TheSiblingTrap with your thoughts!

This is part TWO of our guest session discussing the attachment styles.You all loved when we touched on the attachment styles earlier this season, and we put out an open offer for anyone who had a secure attachment style to come and join us in a conversation.How are we showing up in our relationships?What patterns do we have that maybe aren't the healthiest?How willing are we to be vulnerable with a partner?Do we push people away when we are angry at them?We go in DEEP today.How does each of us answer the question?We had some fun banter here that you're going to love.BONUS points for anyone who watches the episode on YouTube.The side eyes and faces of judgment were totally spot on.

We have our first guest on the podcast today!You all loved when we touched on the attachment styles earlier this season, and we put out an open offer for anyone who had a secure attachment style to come and join us in a conversation.Well, today is that day.Today's episode is part one of TWO.YES. We had such a juicy conversation that it was over 2 hours long!So be sure to come back next week for the second part.There's also been a big twist of events that none of us were expecting that will make this conversation even more entertaining.How are we showing up in our relationships?What patterns do we have that maybe aren't the healthiest?How willing are we to be vulnerable with a partner?Do we push people away when we are angry at them?We go in DEEP today.How does each of us answer the question?We had some fun banter here that you're going to love.BONUS points for anyone who watches the episode on YouTube.The side eyes and faces of judgment were totally spot on.We want to hear from YOU!Send us a DM with your thoughts on today's episode.@TheSiblingTrapAnd massive thanks to Elizabeth for joining us for the conversation.It takes big courage to come on and share so vulnerably.We are indebted to you.Also, if you're interested in taking the quiz that we took to see which attachment style you are, you can find that linked below:https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz

Have you ever wished your partner was more supportive of your personal growth? Are they leading the standing ovation when you win, or watching you struggle from the sidelines? Often times we dilute ourselves or become chameleons for the people we think we want in our romantic relationships, without ever looking at the qualities we seek in a companion. “You cannot mess up what’s meant for you, and you cannot fix what isn’t meant for you” is an empowering quote we all should learn to trust. In this episode, Katrina and Barry reflect on a few qualities they seek in a romantic partner and also share their experiences recognizing what is and isn’t meant to persist in their lives.

Barry ran his first marathon!He shares a bit about his experience of running 26.2 miles with his best friend in Houston, Texas.It's also the season of depression flare-ups, and we learn about post-marathon blues.How can you nurture your mind, body, and soul in a dark time? What are tangible action steps you can implement daily when life feels impossible?  Along with the things that we do to help care for ourselves, we also touch on what to avoid when you are feeling depressed.  It's all about creating self-awareness so you can avoid falling back into old habits that didn’t serve you.Dive in on this episode and enjoy our sibling conversation.We'd love to hear how YOU care for yourself in dark days.Send us a DM over on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap

How does your energy feel different this January versus last January?Are you in rest mode or hitting the ground running?Katrina and Barry share a bit about how they are feeling heading into a new year as they cross the one-year mark of their individual breakups.Whether you are one to set New Year's resolutions or not, this episode will have you reflecting on where you're at energetically and give you space to think about what you are feeling pulled to do/be/have in 2024.  If you want to join the 11-day scripting challenge, you can head to http://www.scripting2024.com to sign up! We kick off January 11th for the New Moon!As always, we love hearing your feedback on episodes. We'd be thrilled if you could write a review for this podcast or send us a DM at @TheSiblingTrap on Instagram with your thoughts!

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship or relationship where it felt very one-sided? As if you were waiting around to see if you were worthy of love or attention from the other person?In today's episode, we touch on the idea that we look dumb waiting around for someone who isn't even sure they want us.It's also important that we recognize that oftentimes, we are part of the problem. What is a massive red flag when talking about past relationships or friendships with someone in this regard? We dive in!ALSO! We invite you to join us for Moonlit Manifestations: An 11-day Scripting Challenge!Katrina often gets asked how she stays so positive, and she's about to show us exactly how to replicate it inside this challenge.Learn how to get clarity around what you want and tap into the feeling of it being a reality.Head over to www.scripting2024.com to sign up!We kick off January 11th!

Have you ever wondered "if they wanted to, they would?" about what you're receiving from your partner? Have you ever seemed to be "overflowing" or "unfulfilling" your partner's needs? In this episode, Katrina and Barry dive into a great way to measure affection using a very relatable analogy: cup sizes! And no, we're not talking about ladies' wear. The constant flow of communication, affection, and dedication between partners can make or break a relationship. When you consider how everyone measures the flow and depth of these qualities within themselves, you may find that you and your partner are very different. Also, we hope everyone had a wonderful Holiday and are looking forward to a bright New Year full of prosperity and growth!

On today’s episode, we dive into how meditation has helped Barry in his day to day mindset and energy.Have you felt like there are days when you’re quick to snap at others because you feel so dysregulated and irritated?Perhaps you’ve finally realized that you’re not in control of your emotions, energy, or thoughts, and you want to get a handle on it.Barry breaks down what his process is, what his must-have items are, and how he’s evolved since implementing this consistently in his life.While you're here, be sure to click the subscribe button so you don't miss out on new episodes every Tuesday!And head over to Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and share your feedback!

Katrina has been an online creator for over eight years and has navigated many mean comments over the years. But what comment broke the camel’s back this month?  Sharing vulnerability online, whether it’s your healing or fitness journey, takes an insane amount of courage and leaves you with a target on your back.  In this episode, we talk a bit about Katrina’s history with body image as a millennial mom, how she’s pushing through the doubt, and what she can learn from every situation that triggers her doubt.   Barry opens up about his history with his body and also unveils a new goal that he’s feeling nervous about.  What happens when someone insults you online? What happens when you start to believe it?  How can you continue to show up and live in your truth without letting the trolls win?  We are finding out together on this journey!

AH, good ole people-pleasing. It’s got us so far in life, hasn’t it? SIKEOn a special episode recorded on Thanksgiving, Barry and I chat about what we are thankful for looking back on this year (hint: it might not be what you expect it to be), and what we are grateful for that DID NOT happen.  This episode is a great opportunity to reflect on your boundaries (or lack of)  this holiday season and the message they are portraying to those around you, including your children.  How can you start protecting your peace in life? How is your people pleasing getting in the way of the life you want to be living?  Let’s step into 2024 with more clarity!

HEY!  Welcome!Today, Barry opens up about his transformative year and how he's staying consistent (for the most part) despite negative opinions or energy from others.You know that THING that you really want in your life but cannot seem to make happen? We dive in on what truly catapults us into making that happen, and it's probably not what you think it is!Cheers to NOT settling, not making excuses, and creating a beautiful life for yourself!Follow us on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap and DM us your feedback on this episode, we'd love to hear from you!

What's better than a man who listens? A man who shares! 'The Sibling Trap' Episode 09 turns the mic to the men in your life with six deep questions that dig up more than just old sports trophies. Questions to ask the man in your life:1. What were you taught about anger growing up?  2. What messages did you receive growing up when you cried?  3. Can you share a story about one of the male role models in your life? 4. What comes up for you when you think about them?  5. What does it mean to you to be a good man?  6. If you no longer felt the pressure to provide, what would you do?This episode is also meant to bring to light men's Mental health month.If you're in a sticky spot and need hslp.

Should a man always be the one to make the first move?What does it say about a woman who takes charge at the beginning of a situationship or relationship?How can a woman let go and be in her feminine energy and not immediately control a situation and "fix" a problem when it arises?How to navigate texting and what are some deal breakers or red flags when in the early stages of talking to someone?WE DIVE IN.Make sure to SUBSCRIBE for more episodes every Tuesday.Follow us over on IG and TikTok @TheSiblingTrap 

Have you ever been swept off your feet by a whirlwind romance, only to feel like you've landed in a confusing maze of manipulation? In this gripping episode, we delve into the psychological phenomenon of lovebombing, where over-the-top gestures and a tsunami of affection are used as deceptive tools to win over a person's heart.Join us on "The Sibling Trap," as we unmask the alluring yet treacherous dance of lovebombing. With the expertise of psychologists, survivors' poignant stories, and the exploration of cultural and social dynamics, we uncover:The Red Flags: How to distinguish genuine affection from a lovebombing facade.The Psychology Behind It: What motivates a lovebomber, and why are we susceptible?Personal Stories: Listen to real-life experiences from those who have walked through the fire of intense romance and emerged on the other side.Self-Defense Strategies: Equip yourself with the tools to protect your heart and establish healthy boundaries.Whether you're a hopeless romantic, a wary sceptic, or somewhere in between, this episode will illuminate the darker corners of love and arm you with knowledge. Tune in to "The Sibling Trap" and navigate the intricate landscape of modern relationships with us. Because sometimes, too much sugar can spoil the love potion.Subscribe now and embark on a journey to decode the language of love and deception. Your heart might thank you for it. And follow us on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap!

Today, we jump around to a few important things in this episode of The Sibling Trap podcast!Barry speaks about a book he recently read called Anxiously Attached by Jessica Vaughn, where he learned a lot about his attachment style and how it shows up in his relationships.Katrina touches on her attachment style and how it's shaped who she shows up as in relationships.We also navigate what it is like to be a boy or a man who has big emotions within a relationship.We hope to see you back here next week!We want to hear about your style over in our IG Dms @The SiblingTrap !

How can you find joy and prioritize your needs through a breakup or divorce?How can you set boundaries in communication in high-conflict conversations?How can you show up as your healed self every day by becoming more intentional with your decisions?We dive in and want to hear from you!DM us on IG over at @TheSiblingTrap your thoughts on this topic.

Can a man be friends with a woman without ulterior motives?How do you feel about your significant other having guy friends?What lines do you draw, and how do you navigate conversations in the DMs on social media?We dive in on perspective from both a man's point of view and a woman's point of view.Share your feedback around this question by sending us a DM on Instagram @TheSiblingTrap 

Katrina sat down and gave the elevator version of her life thus far.At 33 years old, she's got a lot to talk about, starting with leaving home at 17 years old for the big city, her time as a high-profile nanny, becoming a stay-at-home mom, and experiencing two very different births, dabbling in MLM options and starting her own business, her divorce journey and gentle parenting style, all while staying optimistic and resilient. You can catch new episodes every Tuesday here or on your podcast platforms.Follow us over on social media (TikTok and Instagram) @TheSiblingTrap.

Barry sat down and really dove deep on his reflection of life in the USMC on deployment, adjusting to civilian life and turning to unhealthy coping through alcohol, toxic relationships, divorce, and single parenting his nonverbal autistic son, reinventing himself through the pandemic, PTSD and night terrors, and finding his purpose at his lowest. Even though he spoke on so many things, I feel like there is still so much to unpack in future episodes of the Sibling Trap Podcast. New episodes air every Tuesday right here or on your podcast platforms.You can find us on Instagram and TikTok @TheSiblingTrap

Why start a podcast with your sibling who lives over 1,000 miles away? Why NOW, when we are in our 30's?Barry and Katrina explain why they wanted to start a podcast on healing and personal development, what they hope to get out of this experience, and what they are excited to discuss most in future episodes.Stay tuned for new episodes every Tuesday, all about communication, relationships, personal development, divorce, and single parenting while maintaining a positive mindset.You can find us on social media (TikTok and Instagram) @TheSiblingTrap.