TIME-OUT with TRACY DI CECCA Podcast

What is a good friend? A caring lover? A good mother?

What is at the core of relationships?If there are amends to make, how do we begin it?

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How do we manage the good, easy times? Do we take them for granted or with grounding gratitude?

When life is lovely, why would I place myself - without evidence - in an uncomfortable spot? Why would I allow internal dialogue to override the actual experience of my senses? Pause, breathe, take in the world around me in this moment. If I don't allow myself to feel the good, I rob myself of the internal buffering system that helps when the going gets rough. Are you able to pause the difficult or dysfunctional? Practice the steps to cooperate with the divine within.

Love can be challenging. It stretches us to our utmost capacity and then further still. Just do it. One step at a time in this moment, this breath. Experiences link hands, love and connection grow and then comes joy and laughter. Avoidance turns into deep connection and fills us with strength of purpose, understanding and love.

When there is discord, we each play our own part. Nothing can trample the divinity within me and nor can I trample the divinity within another. When people tell me I'm less than, or I could have done more, the mirror rises, who has reached out for greater understanding of Divine? Not necessarily all.

When you look at your default settings, do you allow yourself a voice or is the microphone turned off?

In our most solitary moments we are never really alone.

Allow yourself to feel your relationships more deeply today. You may be a light in someone's life. What do you acknowledge and what do you neglect?

How do we get to a place where we accept uncertainty and know that it is a fact of life? We can hope that life becomes a more calm, stable, and grounded place, but what if?

I don't know anyone who is peace FULL. Full of peace. I'm not, but when I do a full 360 around my life, I find the peace, if I choose to see it.

We are the sum total of what we bring to each moment. If I bring myself - in reliance with my Higher Power - in a fit body, unburdened by resentments, and ready to go forward, I will see life as the blessing it is, no matter what.

What scars do you have? Was it foolishness or are they marks of wisdom, learning and beauty?

Friends today, what sort of stretching and growing are you allowing yourself to do and does it help you not suffer or become bitter? Where do you allow yourself to blow your lid? To share the challenging emotions and where do you force yourself to keep them quiet?

The tools I use to drag myself down, I use on others with equal fervor. That the human system functions in health and harmony at all - the individual body or One Spirit itself - is a miracle.

"Self" is a destination, and self-love is a way of arriving there.

Who made the list?When I'm with someone who has a curiosity about life, a sense of humor and intelligence, it is a source of energy for me. Then they do something human or less than perfect and go from my Nice List to my Naughty List - an energy drain. What about me? How many times have I decided I'm just not good enough to make the list? How do you define quality and are you direct about it?

I look around my life and feel pleased with where I am and have some understanding of who I am.

Sometimes carrying on is the only way. Allow a moment of gratitude for what you are able to do today.

If I take a hard look at what causes me despair I see I have swatted away many hands that may have helped me understand how to do better.Friends, if there is any sort of faith in your life that overcomes despair hang on to it, allow yourself to explore it, listen.

Listen when people speak. Soften your voice when you feel yourself becoming harsh and judgmental. Grow into silence and allow it to create a space for awareness and understanding of self and other.

Where do you feel valued and under-valued? How many friends do you have that are true friends? Do you have any? Do you find that it's easier to be superficial with your friends and family members out of duty than to create a true, definite love, a deep caring and authentic expression of who you are?

When you look back over the landscape of your life, do you see and feel love or difficulty? I was the difficult one because I questioned authority, but it rolled forward as normal. What's normal when it's nonsense?

"This story went well because of my connection to you."

Harm.

Is it possible to be angry or frustrated and still be kind and respectful to those we are angry with or frustrated by? And if we practice kindness and respect, how long will our emotional sobriety last?

What roles do you play? How selectively do you spend your energy and how often are you depleted? What have you received that builds you up and is it a balanced exchange?

Challenge, compensation and balance in relationship.

Talking with a friend or asking for guidance from your Higher Power, do you listen, or do you just keep talking?

How do we balance vigilance with control, safety with enjoyment, security with freedom? Must we define chaos and reason a path through it, or can we keep it simple?

What can you safely ignore? If there are no more excuses and the time for action is now, will it be uncomfortable or healing?

When does responsibility end and resentment begin? It's time to cut the cord between guilt and well-being.

Does God exist? How do you know?

How can we feel comfort in our discomfort, calm instead of urgency in an emergency? Do you call upon that quiet, calm, still space within when you need to? Are you able to connect with your higher power?

What is healthy connection and what is dysfunction? Can we connect and also ask permission to do it?

Are you willing to explore and where do you look for guidance when you move into uncharted territory?

Are there times when you feel like you cannot go on? Where does the light come from?

When do we ever get around to that?

What sort of self do you bring to your relationships? Are you self-less? Perhaps it's time to be self-more. More life, more love, more esteem.

What doors need to be opened and what doors closed and walked away from?

Are you guilty of loving too much, trying too hard? It's not our place to insert ourselves between the other and their path. Does our ego have the answers? Who do you see yourself supporting when you could actually be robbing the other of the reward and consequence of their higher power? Whose business do you need to get out of and what mirror do you need to look into?

Rage is ugly.

Where do you demand perfection of yourself and those around you? None of us is perfect. We can only do our best.

Use your voice or remain silent? Allow yourself the joy and freedom of finding your voice and speaking.

Where is the space between an unmanageable life and understanding the place where our power lies?

When does the problem-free day occur and is that a descriptor for what life, realized, should be? If, through conflict, we realize the joys of our lives, how do we redefine problem?