Unlearning Out Loud - “Where growth isn’t quiet”

Hey cousin…So you finally did it.You made the plan.You started executing.And then… life started lifing.Everything that could go wrong?Yeah… it showed up.In this episode, we’re talking about what nobody really prepares you for —that moment after you start doing better… and everything around you starts testing you.From work drama, to pressure, to feeling like giving up and going back to what’s familiar…this one is about pushing through when life hits back.Because the truth is—it’s not that the path is wrong…it’s that the pressure is revealing who you’re becoming.So what do you do when the odds feel stacked against you?When you’re tired, overwhelmed, and ready to quit?You keep going.Do it tired.Do it hurt.Do it anyway.You’re not just going through it, cousin…you’re growing through it.And I’m right here with you.

This episode? Yeah… we getting real.Last time, we planned the vision.But this time? We executing it.Because let’s be honest—talking about your dreams is cute.Planning your goals is cute.But actually putting in the work? That’s where it gets uncomfortable.In this episode, we talk about:– the difference between procrastination and activation– self-sabotage and personal accountability– and the hard truth that nobody is coming to save youThis is your reminder that you can’t cry over a full plate when you’re the one that prayed for it.Cousin… it’s time to stop waiting.Stop overthinking.Stop making excuses.Let that dog out.We not talking about it no more…we being about it.Because growth isn’t quiet.

Hey cousin…This episode is your “piss or get off the pot” moment.At some point, you have to decide — are you going to keep talking about the life you want… or are you going to start building it?In this episode, we’re getting real about what it actually means to create a vision for your life — not the Pinterest version, not the aesthetic version — the real version that requires decisions, faith, and action.We talk about:✨ Why so many of us feel stuck✨ The difference between survival mode and intentional living✨ Procrastination and how it’s really a mental decision to delay your own goals✨ Faith without work — and why belief alone isn’t enough✨ How to start creating your vision with small, realistic steps✨ A practical 2-week goal challenge to help you move forwardBecause sometimes we don’t have a faith problem…we have an action problem.And cousin, nobody is coming to rescue you into your dream life.You have to walk yourself there.If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure about your next move — this episode is for you.Remember…You’re not behind.You’re becoming.Growth isn’t quiet.

Episode 6: Making a Way Outta NoneHey cousin… this one is raw.In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like when life knocks you off your feet and you still have to figure it out anyway. Losing stability. Losing confidence. Feeling like nobody is coming to save you. And realizing that sometimes… you are the only plan you got.I share my personal story — from losing my apartment, showering at Planet Fitness, showing up to work while silently struggling, and navigating uncertainty in my career — to how I learned one of the biggest lessons of my life:When you don’t have the resources… become the resource.This episode is about survival mode, rebuilding your voice after hard situations, and finding strength you didn’t even know you had.If you’ve ever felt stuck, alone, or like you had to save yourself… this one is for you.So hey cousin… let’s talk.🎧 Follow, share, and send this episode to somebody who needs the reminder that they can make a way — even outta none.

Episode 5 almost didn’t make it.I recorded this episode multiple times — and every time, I was angrier. I wanted to react. I wanted to clear my name. I wanted to say everything.But this episode isn’t about reacting.It’s about reflecting on my reaction.In this episode, I talk about being triggered, almost losing my composure, and realizing that growth isn’t perfection — it’s restraint. It’s emotional regulation. It’s choosing discipline when the old version of you wants to come out and fight.“He who angers you controls you.”I had to learn that the hard way.We’re talking about: • Being activated vs. being angry • Not letting people trick you out of position • Setting boundaries when access is abused • Outgrowing reactions • Protecting your peace instead of defending your nameSometimes growth looks like silence.Sometimes it looks like loss.Sometimes it feels lonely before it becomes legendary.But we are still growing.And we are not who we used to be.Growth isn’t quiet. It’s intentional.

Dating as a Single Parent: Balancing Love & Real LifeDating as a single parent isn’t just about you — it’s about your children, your peace, and your future.In this raw and honest episode, I open up about what it really means to choose alignment over chaos, safety over loneliness, and healing over old patterns. We talk about the guilt, the fear, the boundaries, and the strength it takes to protect your peace when your heart still wants love.This episode is for the parents who still believe in love — but refuse to lose themselves or their children in the process.If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting companionship and choosing stability… this one is for you.✨ Remember:You don’t just date for you.You date for the future version of your children.Thank you for being here, cousin.Keep unlearning. Keep growing. 🤍

Episode 3: Dating Yourself & Choosing Peace Over PotentialIn this raw, unfiltered episode, I talk about what loneliness feels like after healing, why we confuse attention with connection, and how choosing peace can feel boring before it feels safe. No music, no edits — just real conversation from a snowstorm and a full house. If you’re learning how to sit with yourself instead of running back to old patterns, this one’s for you, cousin.

Episode 2: Self-Sabotage & the Birthday BluesIn this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, I get honest about self-sabotage, anxious attachment, and the heaviness that shows up around birthdays.I talk about what it looks like when peace feels unfamiliar, when your mind creates problems that don’t exist, and when old childhood wounds quietly shape how you love, attach, and show up in the present. From birthday blues and loneliness to grounding techniques, parenting moments, and learning how to self-soothe instead of self-destruct — this episode is raw, reflective, and real-time healing.This isn’t advice from someone who has it all figured out.This is a conversation from someone in the work.If you’ve ever delayed your joy, shrunk your voice, or questioned your worth because of how others show up — this one’s for you.In here, we cousins.Let’s Chat !!

This first episode is raw, emotional, and unfiltered.I’m talking about expectations vs reality, survival mode vs intentional living, heartbreak, faith, fitness, and the process of unlearning learned behavior.This episode is for anyone who feels like they don’t have it all figured out — but are choosing to grow anyway.I didn’t start this podcast because I have it all together. I started it because I finally stopped pretending that I did.Hey cousin… welcome to Unlearning Out Loud