You're Not Listening

In this episode of You’re Not Listening, we look at one uncomfortable truth: you are going to suffer either way.You can suffer by avoiding the difficult conversation, dismissing the feedback, staying the same, and protecting the version of yourself that no longer works. Or you can choose the harder pain — the pain of honesty, change, humility, and growth.Through a personal story about facing years of repeated feedback, this episode explores why we often choose familiar suffering without realising it, why change feels painful at first, and why running towards the right discomfort can reshape who we become.This week’s question:What feedback have you kept hearing — and still haven’t faced?Because both paths are hard. But only one of them gives something back.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person just wasn't really there? Or worse — been on the other side of that, and not even realised it? I spent years thinking I was a good listener. I wasn't. I was just good at waiting for my turn to talk. In this episode I break down the three levels of listening that changed the way I show up — in my relationships, in my coaching, in every conversation I have. And by the end, you'll know exactly which level you're at — and what to do about it.