002: Jurassic Trauma

Join us on this week's journey into the heart of darkness—okay, maybe just the heart of trauma, but let's be real, sometimes it feels like the same thing. This week, we're unearthing the behemoth known as complex trauma in an episode we've aptly named "Jurassic Trauma." Why Jurassic? Because some wounds are as old and as deep as dinosaur bones, and just as tricky to handle without the right equipment. We also unravel the "raindrop theory," because honestly, telling someone with complex trauma to "just get over it" isn't helpful. We distinguish the heavy-hitters from the everyday stresses that push us to grow. And yes, we tackle that eye-roller: "doesn't everybody have trauma?" with some truths that might just make you nod in agreement—or at least make you laugh a little. Plus, tune in for our beloved "Mini Crazy Mom Off"—it's like family game night, but nobody wins a prize and everybody needs therapy after. Grab your emotional umbrella, folks, we're about to make it rain wisdom, laughs, and maybe a few tears (the good kind. We hope). We're so happy to be here together with each other and with you. Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast app to automatically get all of the new episodes as soon as they drop, and we would love for you to connect with us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod!   What We Cover In This Episode: •  Where the term gaslighting comes from, plus an important distinction about what it is and isn't [11:18] •  Our main topic of the day, trauma, and how the definition of the word has changed so much in the last 5 years [31:25] •  What the "raindrop theory" is and why just saying "get over it" doesn't work with victims of trauma, particularly the complex type [33:45] •  Distinguishing between trauma and something that challenges you or stresses you in order to grow [41:32] •  How to know if you've had trauma as a result of narcissistic abuse and the specific questions to ask yourself during this self-reflection [46:38] •  What we say when we hear, "doesn't everybody have trauma?" [64:47] •  Another edition of our "Mini Crazy Mom Off" with two significant stories from our past [68:25] •  How we both used human connection and leaning on our support system recently to get through difficult situations [81:23] Links & Resources:  001: Welcome to Our Nightmare  https://www.ilcadv.org/will-you-light-the-gas-please-a-brief-history-of-the-term-gaslighting-and-the-movie-behind-it/  https://medium.com/@artchangeslives/understanding-fight-flight-freeze-and-the-feign-response-1765d7227775