004 Dr. Shefali Tsabary - Awake-ish

00:56 – Introducing today’s guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabary05:35 – Conscious parenting, defined08:18 – Goals of conscious parenting11:22 – Dr. Stephanie opens up about having expectations of her son13:29 – Framing expectations for our children16:11 – Differentiating between child-centric and parent-centric parenting18:22 – Parenting myths discussed in Dr. Shefali’s book, The Awakened Parent19:58 – Why success has become the primary barometer for childrearing23:14 – The danger of potential25:26 – The myth of ‘good’ children and ‘bad’ children28:50 – Learnings Dr. Stephanie applied from Dr. Shefali’s book30:28 – Dr. Shefali provides practical tools parents can utilize daily31:47 – The myth that good parents are naturals35:11 – Breaking free of parental guilt36:40 – The myth that a good parent is a loving one39:36 – Dr. Stephanie recalls a vulnerable moment from her childhood42:18 – The myth that parenting is about raising a happy child46:10 – The myth that parents need to be in control48:46 – Tools parents can use to become more conscious52:47 – How to navigate two differing parental philosophies54:14 – Dr. Shefali gives advice to parents struggling with raising children with special needs55:54 – The importance of accepting ourselves as imperfect beings58:16 – Dr. Shefali promotes her annual event, Evolve59:50 – Where listeners can follow Dr. Stephanie and subscribe to her newsletterTWEETABLE QUOTES“The conscious parenting understands that the traditional way they’ve been parenting until now is full of holes and mythologies that need to be debunked.” (05:45)“In many ways our children are more evolved because they allow themselves to be unhampered by culture. They’re very open about their feelings. They’re not yet jaded and critical like we can be.” (11:03)“I think keep it to day-to-day expectations and the rest will kind of take care of itself. If they’re [your children] meant to be a scientist, they’re going to be a scientist. If they’re meant to be an artist, they’re going to be an artist. Don’t dictate their future.” (15:52)“Success has become the goal of childhood. Not play, not exploration, not nothingness, not boredom, not creativity, but success.” (19:58)“Our children are not here to live our lives. And they’re not here to fulfill our destinies. They’re here to become their own beings.” (22:46)“There’s so much to learn. And, really, parenting should just be learning. We don’t know these children that come to us.” (32:16)“The journey is not outward, it’s inward. You have to go inward in order to make this thing call parenting work.” (34:59)“Love is the most active thing you can feel. And it really involves no judgement, no approval, no conditions, no transactions. It’s really love for the other person’s essence no matter how they make you feel.” (37:06)“That’s the beautiful part of life. If life was all happy, there would be no nuance, there would be no adventure, there would be no complexity, and there would be no growth.” (43:27)“Meditation has been the single most profound tool in my life, so much so that I am more connected inward than outward.” (51:57)“We can’t be everything to all people and all things and all images of ourselves as women.” (54:44)“Mothering just takes the life out of us, doesn’t it? And I think that we are ashamed to talk about just how draining it is because we have this mantle of perfection over our heads.” (55:31)LINKS MENTIONEDBetter! WebsitePrivate Facebook Community for Better!Dr. Stephanie’s WebsiteDr. Stephanie’s Twitter – @dr_stephanieDr. Stephanie’s Instagram – @dr.stephanie.estimaDr. Shefali’s Instagram – @drshefalimexicoDr. Shefali’s Twitter – @DrShefaliDr. Shefali’s FacebookDr. Shefali’s WebsiteLink to Dr. Shefali’s Evolve EventBOOKS MENTIONEDDr. Shefali’s Book – The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious ChildrenThe Conscious ParentENJOYING THE SHOW, READY FOR MORE?Please Subscribe to Better! With Dr. StephanieJoin our Private Facebook Community for Better!Rate and Review: Show your support and help spread the word by writing a review, along with a 5-star rating on Apple Podcasts: https://bettershow.co/apple🎙️🎙️🎙️Podcast production and marketing provided by FullCast ****************************P.S. When you're ready, here are two ways Dr. Stephanie can help you:Subscribe: The Mini Pause — My weekly newsletter packed with the most actionable, evidence-based tools for women 40+ to thrive in midlife.Build Muscle: LIFT — My progressive strength training program designed for women in midlife. Form-focused, joint-friendly, and built for real results. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.