004 - The Uplift Podcast: The Good Girl Trap — How People Pleasing Is Keeping Women Over 30 Burnt Out & Stuck

Send us Fan MailIf you've been busy for months but feel like you're going nowhere — this episode is for you.In this solo episode Im going deep on one of the most common patterns I see holding women back from their goals and it has nothing to do with strategy, consistency or not working hard enough.It's people pleasing. And chances are you're doing it without even realising.I'm talking about what people pleasing actually looks like for women over 30 — because it doesn't look like weakness. It looks like capability. It looks like being the most reliable, dependable, hardworking person in every room. And it is quietly costing you everything.I'm sharing my own story in this one — the years I spent running my own business, training for bodybuilding / preps, moving houses and working full time, all at the same time. Not because I was thriving. Because I was terrified. Terrified of not being able to support myself, of not being enough, of letting go of a standard I had built entirely out of fear. My stress was through the roof. I felt numb. I couldn't think clearly. I stopped enjoying anything I had once loved.It took an enough is enough moment to change it. And almost 12 months for my body to fully settle afterwards. That's how deep this runs.In this episode we cover:✔️ What people pleasing really looks like at 30+ and why it's so hard to spot ✔️ Why it feels like the right thing to do — and the psychology behind why we keep choosing it ✔️ The direct link between people pleasing, burnout and staying stuck ✔️ Why your identity is wrapped up in it and what makes it so hard to stop ✔️ 3 practical ways to start recognising and setting your own limits — exactly what I work through with my clients and inside The Uplift ProjectThis episode is honest, personal and practical. If you've ever felt invisible while giving everything to everyone else — this one is going to hit.Mentioned In This Episode:The Uplift Project — https://6op2840ygef.typeform.com/to/OEEqivogConnect With Me:Instagram — @Scarlett_portues / @Captainscarlift_CoachingTikTok — @Scarlettportues59 (Captain Scarlift CoachingSupport the showYour host Scarlett Portues - Thanks for listening,You can find more information on the Uplift Project at - @theupliftproject1 on instagram My personal page - Scarlett_portues on instagram I'm more than proud to have worked with females for the last 6 years both in physique development, strength and real lifestyle change.