005 | 和妈妈聊聊青春变形记 Mom, have you watched “Turning Red”?

【聊了什么】 啊，想妈妈了。谁看完《青春变形记》不会想给妈妈打个电话呢？曾经和朋友开玩笑说，大学的时候聊起自己的妈妈，仿佛都是在街上捡垃圾长大的，都喜欢讲述一些半真半假的自己多么的独立的故事。而如果去问我们的妈妈，仿佛每一个孩子都是在三百层温室和襁褓里精准育苗长大的。随着年龄增长，我愈发意识到，同一个故事之所以会有两个叙述方式，是因为这从来都是两个人的成长故事——孩子讲述的是自己的成长故事，妈妈讲述的也是自己作为女性的成长、成就与自我实现的故事。 这期节目，我们找来了两个妈妈一起聊了聊《青春变形记》，也问了问我们心里一直想要问妈妈的那些问题。 How do you tell a coming-of-age story? As teenagers, we tell our friends stories that minimize our mothers’ roles in anticipation of our independence; mothers, in turn, exchange stories about their meticulous planning and their level of insight on the children’s growth. In the end of the day, we like telling stories about our own growth, our own control and independence, and a child’s coming of age is equally a story of growth and discovery for the mother. “Turning Red” is a story about a girl and her mother’s growth as she comes of age, their miscommunicated heart-to-hearts, and their parallels of evolving womanhood. In honor of this parallel, we brought two daughters and two mothers into this conversation about womanhood and motherhood. 【时间轴】 2:00 对电影的第一印象：监控拆一下，谢谢 6:30 如何面对儿女的青春期、叛逆情绪和身体始改变带来的性别体验 17:25 带着时代的焦虑做妈妈：改革开放时代的阶级焦虑，移民生活的生存焦虑 25:30 在“生孩子我的生活就会彻底结束”和“想要拥有一个做母亲的人生体验”之间疯狂横摆 38:50 和孩子的平等对话是可能的吗？妈妈经历过哪些纠结和反思？ 49:30 孩子生了孩子的话，即将做姥姥或者奶奶的妈妈们如何看待身份的再次转变？ 2:00 First impressions of the movie: stop spying on my life please 6:30 Struggling with the budding independence of your teenage child 17:25 A mother’s anxiety as a reflection of their class and their immigrant status 25:30 Will my life be over when I have a baby 38:50 Is it possible to have an equal conversation with your child? 49:30 How are the moms thinking about their upcoming transition into “grandmahood” 【买咖啡】 如果喜欢这期节目并愿意想要给我们买杯咖啡： 海外用户：https://www.patreon.com/cyberpinkfm 海内用户：https://afdian.com/a/cyberpinkfm 商务合作邮箱：[email protected] 商务合作微信：CyberPink2022 If you like our show and want to support us, please consider the following: Those Abroad：https://www.patreon.com/cyberpinkfm Those in China：https://afdian.net/@cyberpinkfm Business Inquiries Email：[email protected] Business Inquiries WeChat： CyberPink2022