006 – SDP – Divorced Parents – Tips For Parenting After Divorce

 Divorced Parents have it rough.  In this episode of the Surviving Divorce Podcast I rehash some tips for divorced parents that were shared previously on the blog.For All Divorced Parents:Your children are hurting as much or more than you areDon't try to get them to take sidesYour children still need two parents involved in their livesTry to make major parenting decisions togetherBe flexible with visitation schedules when possibleGive your kids as much say as possible on when they see their other parentYour children will likely still have hopes of you re-uniting with your ex for years after the divorceYour children may not be supportive of you datingYour children don't want to hear you bad-mouthing their other parentYour children don't want to be used as messengersDon't over-extend yourself financially to maintain all of their pre-divorce activities and lifestyle.For Custodial Parents:Your children still love and miss the non-custodial parentKeep the non-custodial parent informed of school, sports, and church eventsDon't use the excuse that the child support was late for not doing things, even if that is the reason.For Non-Custodial Parents:Your children want to know you care by spending time with themYour children are hurt deeply if you don't show up when you are supposed toDon't substitute money or gifts for spending time with your childrenYour children want you to come to their school, sports, or church activitiesYour children want to hear from you regularly even if you can't be with themYou have a moral and legal obligation to pay child support. Just do it.Don't expect all of your support money to be spent specifically on the kids, That's not how it worksThis is the first in a series of podcasts dealing with divorced parents.  The podcasts in this series will probably be spread out over the next few months.If you enjoy and value the podcast, please consider leaving a favorable review in iTunes.  It will help keep the podcast visible in the search results. Also comment below or leave me a voice message by clicking on the tab to the right or calling 347-433-7664And don't forget to sign up for the free budgeting toolkit.Have a blessed weekG.D.