0132 - Married To A Fantasy

You can see the video of my hiking in Sedona and the beautiful scenery here: https://www.youtube.com/@joinironfather You spend fifty-plus years being somebody's husband, somebody's father, and then one day the title's gone and you're standing there wondering who's actually under it. I walked the trails outside Sedona with that question and worked through Harry Browne's "identity trap," the thing that keeps a man tied to a version of his wife, his marriage, his whole life, that was never actually real.This isn't about blaming her. It's about the fantasy you built in your head and refused to let go of, even after it stopped working for you. Every man still holding onto who he thought she was, or who he thought he'd be by now, is carrying weight he doesn't have to carry.In this one I get into:- Why you can't let go of the identity you built your whole life around- The old saying that explains why so many marriages end in the exact same disappointment- Why understanding a woman's actual nature, not the fantasy version, is the first step to freedom- What it really means to figure out who you are before you walk into the next relationshipI'm not talking to you from the finish line. I'm working through my own "who am I now" right along with you on this path, one hike at a time.If this hit something, check out Verdict Overturned, free at: https://ironfather.gumroad.com/l/dmtvfn🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next.👊 Join The Garage (Patreon) for the after-hours: https://www.patreon.com/c/ironfather/membership➡️ Work with me / Iron Father coaching: https://calendly.com/joinironfatherIron Father Substack: https://ironfather.substack.com/➡️ Join the community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=6158001788806