#014 - The SPEC Debate: What Do Men Really Want? (MEN'S M...

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Welcome back to another explosive episode of That’s My Time Podcast with your host Tolu Afilaka and i have my amazing brothers — Increase, AYK, Awa Victor, Fulfillment, and Gini.In honor of Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, we went all in: from relationship standards, cheating, ego, money, and masculinity, to how men really process emotions. You don’t want to miss this honest, funny, and at times, very raw conversation.📍 Timestamps & Topics Breakdown:00:00 - Intro & Welcome02:00 - Should a Christian Man Have a Spec?We debate the "spec" culture — what kind of women each of us actually like.Gini drops his love for deep conversations.Increase opens up about how his girlfriend wasn’t originally his "spec".Fulfillment wants good English + pedigree.Awa Victor and Gini clash with hilarious disagreements.Fulfillment drops: "What happens to the dumb babes?"Gini: "I like to feel underrated and then get the babe."20:00 - Hot Seat: Cheating, Forgiveness & LoyaltyFulfillment gets grilled on the hot seat!Gini breaks down why your girlfriend shouldn't stop you from finding your wife 😮.Tolu explains why cheating is never okay.AYK declares: "I don’t even have the capacity to cheat."The panel explores the question: Should cheaters be forgiven?Tolu shares his own real-life cheating temptation story.Awa drops deep relationship wisdom.40:00 - When The Lady Initiates CheatingAwa Victor shares powerful wisdom on how men should handle cheating temptations.Tolu reports his cheating experience to Ebuka Mic.Should men give women money? What happens when a lady asks for wig money?Fulfillment shares his story about dating a celebrity's daughter.The crew discusses men’s ego, finances and how "money makes love sweeter."60:00 - Outro & Final Gems👉 LIKE | COMMENT | SUBSCRIBE | SHAREThis is one of the most REAL, UNSCRIPTED, and POWERFUL episodes on men’s struggles, relationships and navigating love in today’s world.#MensMentalHealth #RelationshipPodcast #BlackMenTalk #ChristianDating #PodcastAfrica #ThatIsMyTimePodcast #MenTalkReal #ThinkLikeAMan #LoveAndEgo #CheatingCulture #MasculinityIn2025 #ViralPodcast #NigerianPodcast #DatingPodcast #ModernLove #HotSeatPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #ThatsMyTimePodcast #MensMentalHealth #MensMentalAwarenessMonth #ThinkLikeAMan #ChristianDating #RelationshipPodcast #BlackMenTalk #PodcastDrama #HotSeatPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndMoney #ForgivingCheating #ModernMasculinity #AfricanPodcast #NigerianPodcast #MoneyMakesLoveSweeter #MenTalkReal #RealTalkPodcast #DatingAdviceForMen #ViralPodcast #PodcastClips #LoveAndEgofemi lazarus, Bola Tinubu appointments 2025NDIC new MD Oludare SundayUniversity Governing Council reshuffleMinimum wage increase Nigeria 2025AMVCA 2025 winnersDavido & Chioma wedding 2025 rumors (this one's always hot 🔥)Wizkid new album 2025BBNaija 2025 housematesSuper Eagles World Cup Qualifiers 2025Victor Osimhen transfer newsAFCON 2025 qualifiersEPL fixtures Nigeria timeTikTok Nigeria trendsNigerian skit makers 2025NaijaNoDeyCarryLastFunny TikTok audios Nigeria 2025Property prices in Lagos 2025Lekki new estate projects 2025How to start real estate business in Nigeria 2025JAMB results 2025WAEC 2025 answers (trust Nigerians 😅)Scholarships for Nigerians 2025Study visa Canada, UK, USA 2025 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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