028- Stop Being Nice to People Who Aren’t Nice to You

Send us Fan MailYou’ve been taught that being nice is the safest way to survive conflict—especially with people who are cruel, dishonest, or inconsiderate. But niceness can become a way of abandoning yourself.In this episode, I’m talking about why you keep meeting mistreatment with more kindness, more patience, more understanding—while forgetting the most important person in your life: you.We’ll unpack:Why “being nice” can be a trauma response (fawning)The difference between niceness and kindnessWhy self-respect starts with accepting what just happenedHow boundaries aren’t punishment—they’re protectionWhy you don’t have to endure someone’s hell to “earn” their heavenWords That Found Me: Brené Brown — “Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.” Words From Me to You: Welcome Home — “Give Yourself Validation”If someone’s approval requires your self-abandonment, let them keep it.