031: The Moment God Broke My Heart in Church—and What It Means for Your Son

In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal journey that began during a God's movement in his heart during a church service. Witnessing a congregation full of worshiping young women but few young men, he was overcome with emotion and conviction—recognizing the void of godly male leadership during the formative, pre-marriage years. This moment led to the birth of a powerful new vision: "Men Before Marriage", a ministry aimed at preparing young men to root their identity in Christ, lead themselves well, and pursue spiritual maturity before pursuing a wife. Despite doubts stemming from his own imperfections, Brett shares how his wife's encouragement affirmed the calling. Brett outlines his multi-phase spiritual framework—from seeking God, surrendering to His Spirit, bearing fruit, and multiplying impact. He reads the "Men Before Marriage Manifesto," a bold declaration of identity, purpose, and godly masculinity. With outlines, social media handles secured, and a letter drafted to his pastor to launch a pilot program, Brett is stepping forward—one surrendered step at a time.   Key Takeaways: A Burden for Young Men: Brett was stirred by the absence of young men in church and felt called to raise up godly leaders before marriage. The Power of Vulnerability: Despite past failures, Brett embraces God's grace and leads from a place of humility and redemption. The Birth of a Movement: "Men Before Marriage" is more than a message—it's a manifesto, a ministry, and potentially a global discipleship model. Obedience Over Perfection: Even in uncertainty, Brett is committing his plans to the Lord, taking bold next steps, and trusting God to guide his path.   FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the  Oceans Church podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey.  Messenger X App - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith.  The John Bevere Podcast This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.