033: Raising Children Away From Family

Parent Driven Development Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family 00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together. This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. 03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family Lack of support Career trade offs Finding a sitter 07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family Who can help with childcare? Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? 13:30 - Coping with coordination Co-op babysitting Drop off playdates with neighbors 17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids 22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support Effective response to kids Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well 23:37 Work Flexibility Staying organized as a working parent Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children. The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more. 30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents Potential extra PTO for one the parents One parent typically has a more flexible schedule 32:30 Fail Moments More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail 36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? Allowing kids to figure things out on their own. 39:30 Genius Moments Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius Follow & Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected]. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Allison McMillan Adarsh Pandit