#036: How Love Changes Your Brain With Jesse Lawler

Human-Beings do stupid things in order to get money for drugs. They do the same to win their ex-partner back. - Jesse Lawler Jesse Lawler is an entrepreneur, filmmaker, cyclist, podcaster and a really nerdy self-optimizer. Jesse hosts the very successful Smart Drug Smarts Podcast (LINK), he also is the co-founder of the Nootropics-Company Axon Labs and the founder of the mobile app Evil Genius Technologies. A real jack of all trades, Jesse has also dabbled in Hollywood-screenwriting, travel photography and coding software for breweries before finding his current calling. Jesse and I met at the Biohacker Summit in Helsinki (LINK) where we both spoke and then spent an entire weekend on a Finnish-style Biohacking adventure with fellow biohackers Teemu Arina, Ben Greenfield, Dr. Rhonda Patrick and several others going from smoke saunas to icy rivers to camping in the woods (more info on this transcendental trip in the episode). We’ve remained friends ever since and I am very excited to present to you this highly entertatining neuro-hacking mastermind from the other side of the Atlantic. Notice to all smart drug fans: Jesse’s website is full of information of pretty much any nootropic you’ve heard of. On the site, you can also find my favorite episodes of the Smart Drug Smarts Podcast so make sure to check it out! In this episode, you’ll learn how our brain behaves when we fall for another person. Love love love! Enjoy! SHOW NOTES 2:30 - Why Jesse wants a floating tank in his basement 6:30 - Why love and relationships have become tougher nowadays 12:30 - About your hormonal changes when you fall in love 23:00 - The effects of sperm and seminal fluid on the woman 26:00 - What happens after the honeymoon phase 29:30 - About the withdrawal symptoms after breaking up 34:00 - How Jesse would get over a breakup today 39:00 - About indicators for successful relationships 41:30 - On epigenetics and innate fears 43:30 - The influence of porn on our brains 51:00 - Environmental factors which influence our perspective on relationships 54:00 - Why it makes sense to study the biochemistry of love   QUOTES Love and learning belong together. Adolescents today have their first sexual experiences with their computers. Once we don’t have to learn more about our partner, dopamine production drops. Listen to your friends when it comes to your relationship. Withdrawal after drug use and breaking up are very similar.