039: Control, Identity, and Becoming “Her”

What if the resistance you feel isn’t about the work… but about who you’re allowing yourself to be while doing it?In this episode, Meg coaches Jillian live in a raw and unfiltered conversation that uncovers the deeper layers behind control, anxiety, and identity. What begins as a discussion about trying to control outcomes quickly reveals something more foundational. A split between two versions of self.Jillian shares the tension between who she is in the world and who she feels she is at home. The bold, visionary leader versus the smaller, more contracted version seeking safety. Together, they unpack where these patterns come from, why they persist, and what it looks like to begin integrating them instead of choosing between them.This conversation moves beyond mindset and into embodiment. It explores what it really means to trust yourself, to feel safe being fully seen, and to step into a more complete version of who you already are.What we explore in this episode:The hidden cost of trying to control outcomes instead of trusting the processWhy resistance often shows up around the very practices that help us mostThe belief that success must come through grit, struggle, and sacrificeThe internal split between “who I am at work” and “who I am at home”How safety, peace, and success can coexist instead of competeThe fear of being fully seen and how it shapes behavior and identityWhy contraction and expansion are both necessary parts of growthThe difference between forcing change and allowing integrationReframing “hurting people” as inviting them into a higher version of themselvesWhat it means to truly embody “I am her”Key TakeawaysYou don’t have to choose between success and peace. They can exist together.The parts of you you’ve separated are meant to be integrated, not managed.Resistance is often a signal pointing directly to the belief that needs to be examined.You are already resourced. The evidence is in the people who fully know and love you.Growth doesn’t require force. It can happen through awareness, observation, and gentleness.You are not becoming someone new. You are allowing more of who you already are. We Would Love to Connect With YouYour reflections, questions, and lived experiences mean so much to us.If this episode resonates, please share it, leave a review, or reach out.Connect with JillianWebsite: https://trellissuite.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-pezet-trellis/Email: [email protected] what Jillian is building!! www.linkedin.com/company/trellissuiteConnect with MegWebsite: www.profoundwellness.netEmail: [email protected]: facebook.com/megan.fikseInstagram: instagram.com/m.laidlawMeg’s OfferingsHeart Math BioFeedback Device: https://www.heartmath.com/coachmegSelf Mastery Program:https://www.profoundwellness.net/self-mastery-programBold Beautiful Life Membership:https://www.profoundwellness.net/membershipBold Beautiful Business Mastermind:https://www.profoundwellness.net/mastermindMentioned in this episode:Outro Dyn AD