045| Healing the Relationship with Self: Rediscovering Your God‑Given Identity with Healing Scriptures, Overcoming Childhood Trauma and Parental Neglect

In Episode 045 of Heal from Parental Absence, Beverly Parraz opens the new monthly series Rewriting Relationships After Parental Absence: Identity, Healing, and God's Design by diving into the most foundational relationship of all — the one you have with yourself. Beverly explores how growing up with an absent or emotionally unavailable parent shapes the stories we tell about our own worth, the masks we wear to survive, and what God's Word says about who we truly are outside of the wound. With coaching-forward action steps, powerful Scripture, and a closing prayer, this episode is an invitation to begin seeing yourself the way God always has. Key Takeaways Children of absent parents often internalize absence as a reflection of their own worth — but that story is a lie, not the truth. Your wound and your identity are not the same thing. What happened to you does not define who you are. God's Word speaks a different identity over you: chosen, loved, seen, and called by name (Isaiah 43:1). Healing your past and rewriting your identity are two parallel journeys — and you don't have to wait to be "fully healed" to begin living in who God says you are. Practical steps like naming your survival mask, writing a "This Is Not My Story" letter, and building a daily "God Says I Am" list can begin the shift from wound-defined to God-defined identity. Scriptures Referenced Psalm 27:10 — "Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me." (NIV) Jeremiah 1:5 — "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart." (NIV) Isaiah 43:1 — "Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine." (NIV) Journal Prompt Bright Souls, grab your journal. Write at the top of a fresh page: "Outside of the wound, I am…" and let yourself finish that sentence as many times as it takes. Not who you were told you are — but the you that exists in God's eyes: chosen, named, loved, and full of purpose. If nothing comes right away, write even one word, and ask God to show you more. He will. Resources & Links Faith-Based Mini-Course — Healing From Emotionally Absent Parents: www.ninecrownsofgrace.life Bright Soul Blank Journal: ninecrownsofgrace.myshopify.com Facebook Community — Christian High Achievers Heal From Parental Absence Search the group name on Facebook to join Support the Mission via CashApp: $9CrownsofGrace