#047 Why Is It So Easy To Be Negative?

Episode 47 of the Finding Joy in the Hard podcast, hosted by Suzanne Andora Barron, titled "#047 Why Is It So Easy To Be Negative?" was published on April 22, 2024 and runs 3 minutes.

April 22, 2024 ·3m · Finding Joy in the Hard

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Summary

Have you ever considered why it's so easy to be negative? Negativity shows up in so many forms: complaining, gossip, comparing, thinking poorly about ourselves or others, getting annoyed at the simplest things like another driver or someone walking too slow in front of us, etc. Why do we do it? One reason is that it's easy. It's our default. Our brains are hard wired through evolution to focus on the negative. Prehistoric people had to be able to register threats to avoid danger and inc...

Episode Description

Have you ever considered why it's so easy to be negative?

Negativity shows up in so many forms: complaining, gossip, comparing, thinking poorly about ourselves or others, getting annoyed at the simplest things like another driver or someone walking too slow in front of us, etc.

Why do we do it?

One reason is that it's easy. It's our default. Our brains are hard wired through evolution to focus on the negative. Prehistoric people had to be able to register threats to avoid danger and increase survival rates. Individuals more attuned to danger (negative stimuli) stayed alive longer and passed on their genes.

The problem is when we're negative, we have less energy, less motivation, and are more inpatient. It snowballs and we tend to get annoyed more easily, listen less, and compare or complain more.

The next time you find yourself about to complain about someone or something (or behave in some other negative way), ask yourself if it’s worth it. It might feel good in the moment, but it lowers our energy, taking our focus off of what's important. It also shines a spotlight on what's not working instead of what is.

So what can we do instead? Flip the script. If you’re about to complain, find something positive to say or focus on. It will be hard at first. Awareness is the first step. Half the time we don’t even realize we're complaining. It has become so routine. For me, practicing gratitude (writing down 3-10 things each day), helps me notice the smaller, more positive things in my daily life.

My healing tip: reach for a finger, any finger. Let it be intuitive. The thumb calms worry, the index finger, fear, the middle, anger, the ring, letting go, and the pinky, helps you to stop trying and pretending.

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