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#051: Why Incompatibility Is What You Need In A Partner - with Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari PhD

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*Talking can be the most dangerous thing couples do. Today with the magnificent Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, a relationship therapist, Chairperson of Imago UK, author, speaker, therapist supervisor and parental advisor, we cover:Why compatibility isn’t what we think it is.+ The first year is not always a smooth sailing, problem-free honeymoon, Kalanit explains why some of us stumble in the first year whilst others on the seventh. Neither are a good or bad sign but it’s how you handle it that’s key.+ How to deal with conflicts with our partners and why they are “gold” in the IMAGO philosophy. + How to grow and become a better partner for them or the next one (they leave, they lose).+ How to forgive ourselves and our partner - feelings of guilt and shame, anyone?+ Why it’s important to not paint your partner as the bad one during conflicts but to remember the good parts.+ How to express an issue without it being a big deal aka without your partner feeling attacked.+ How to not lose yourself in a relationship and why it happens.+ Knowing the difference between: Needing space in service for yourself or in service for the relationship?+ Is breaking up always the end? Reference used for this episode: Getting the love you want by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen HuntCome find Dr Kalanit at kalanitbenari.com Books on Amazon: Small Steps to Great Parenting & The Lost Book✨ Don’t be a stranger:🎙️ Thinking about starting your own podcast? My membership at getyourpodcastdone.com will help you actually do the thing - without the overwhelm.📬 Want the good stuff I don’t share anywhere else? Hop on my email list❤️ If this episode made you think, laugh, or roll your eyes (in a good way), you can support the show here. It helps keep the mics on.The podcast host I swear by: Captivate💌 Old school and want to just say hi? Contact me here*Affiliate link alert: I get a tiny kickback if you sign up. Think of it as buying me a fancy coffee. ☕️ *Recorded in Nov 2020

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*Talking can be the most dangerous thing couples do. Today with the magnificent Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, a relationship therapist, Chairperson of Imago UK, author, speaker, therapist supervisor and parental advisor, we cover: Why compatibility isn’t what we think it is. + The first year is not always a smooth sailing, problem-free honeymoon, Kalanit explains why some of us stumble in the first year whilst others on the seventh. Neither are a good or bad sign but it’s how you handle it that’s key. + How to deal with conflicts with our partners and why they are “gold” in the IMAGO philosophy. + How to grow and become a better partner for them or the next one (they leave, they lose). + How to forgive ourselves and our partner - feelings of guilt and shame, anyone? + Why it’s important to not paint your partner as the bad one during conflicts but to remember the good parts. + How to express an issue without it being a big deal aka without your partner feeling attacked. + How to not lose yourself in a relationship and why it happens. + Knowing the difference between: Needing space in service for yourself or in service for the relationship? + Is breaking up always the end? Reference used for this episode: Getting the love you want by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt Come find Dr Kalanit at kalanitbenari.com Books on Amazon: Small Steps to Great Parenting & The Lost Book Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com *Recorded in Nov 2020

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