053 CF Suicide, Depression, and Recovery with Jorge Reyes

Jorge Reyes talks about “CF Suicide, Depression, and Recovery”, in this episode of ColdFusion Alive Podcast, with host Michaela Light. Show notes Suicide T or F quiz The person with suicidal thoughts will have those thoughts all of his/her life Suicidal Thoughts shouldn't be talked directly. You will make the person kill him/herself faster If a person already tried to kill him/herself. A new attempt is less likely. Suicide happens without warning Someone bragging about killing him/herself just wants to draw attention to themselves. People with suicidal thoughts - they absolutely want to die. Developer thinking about suicide Disclaimer: we are not doctors and don’t play one on TV either How a developer he had trained then a month later he killed himself But he seemed engaged and happy The tip of the iceberg - small talk and big talk How he helped a developer friend who wanted to kill himself Developer depression Not talking about this The history of depression and mental illness - fear of talking about it Rather die than talk about it Fear of being judged Stress and anxiety Tools for releasing anxiety and depression Exercise Meditation Time in nature Sleep Relaxation Massage Digital detox day Friend time Understanding and listening Human touch Laughter - silly movie or laughter yoga Shame = not deserve to exist “Coward”, “easy way out” PTSD Friends of those who are suicide Be aware of other people Take some action Resources Call Suicide prevention lifeline its free Confidential And available 24/7 1800 273 8255 https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Addictions don’t help, they cover up Alcohol Drugs Food TV and media Shopping Overwork What are you looking forward to at CF Summit? Moving out of CF legacy hell Mentioned in this episode Dissociative moment PTSD and TRE Pigs in the Parlor: A handbook for deliverance from demons and spiritual oppression. by Frank Hammond  I Jumped Off The Golden Gate Bridge and Survived Listen to the Audio Bio Jorge Reyes Jorge is a passionate Industrial Engineer born in El Salvador with 7 years of experience managing projects. Business manager at Ortus Solutions, Corp. Links Jreyes (at) ortussolutions.com Twitter Ortus Solutions Interview transcript Michael:          Welcome back to the show. I'm here with Jorge Reyes, and we're talking about a very interesting subject. And it's very serious for some developers out there in ColdFusion which is ColdFusion suicide, depression, and recovery. And Jorge here has a very interesting story to tell of a couple of experiences he's had with this. But we're gonna start off the show with a quick true or false quiz for everyone listening. And we're also gonna look at if you have any friends who’ve either thought about suicide, or committed suicide, how you can deal with that. And we'll have some resources in case anyone's feeling suicidal, or knows someone who is. So, very important topic. Welcome Jorge. Jorge:               Thank you Michael. Michael:          So, you mentioned you put together a little quiz for me and the listeners; true or false. Jorge:               true or false Michael:          What are those questions? Jorge:               Yeah, because it is important that we kind of set in check some of the assumptions that people have about suicide, or people considering to commit suicide. So, I wanted to kind of access you and the audience with those. Michael:          I'm ready. Jorge:               yeah Michael:          I hope everyone listening has sharpened their pencils, or their fingertips on their keyboard. Jorge:               So the first one… Michael:          We’ll put it on the show notes too. Jorge:               Cool! The person with suicidal thoughts will have those thoughts all of his or her life. True or false, Michael. Read more And to continue learning how to make your ColdFusion apps more modern and alive, I encourage you to download our free ColdFusion Alive Best Practices Checklist.Because… perhaps you are responsible for a mission-critical or revenue-generating CF application that you don’t trust 100%, where implementing new features is a painful ad-hoc process with slow turnaround even for simple requests.What if you have no contingency plan for a sudden developer departure or a server outage? Perhaps every time a new freelancer works on your site, something breaks. Or your application availability, security, and reliability are poor.And if you are depending on ColdFusion for your job, then you can’t afford to let your CF development methods die on the vine.You’re making a high-stakes bet that everything is going to be OK using the same old app creation ways in that one language — forever.All it would take is for your fellow CF developer to quit or for your CIO to decide to leave the (falsely) perceived sinking ship of CFML and you could lose everything—your project, your hard-won CF skills, and possibly even your job.Luckily, there are a number of simple, logical steps you can take now to protect yourself from these obvious risks.No Brainer ColdFusion Best Practices to Ensure You Thrive No Matter What Happens NextColdFusion Alive Best Practices ChecklistModern ColdFusion development best practices that reduce stress, inefficiency, project lifecycle costs while simultaneously increasing project velocity and innovation.√ Easily create a consistent server architecture across development, testing, and production√ A modern test environment to prevent bugs from spreading√ Automated continuous integration tools that work well with CF√ A portable development environment baked into your codebase… for free! Learn about these and many more strategies in our free ColdFusion Alive Best Practices Checklist. Michaela Light is the host of the CF Alive Podcast and has interviewed more than 100 ColdFusion experts. In each interview, she asks "What Would It Take to make CF more alive this year?" The answers still inspire her to continue to write and interview new speakers. Michaela has been programming in ColdFusion for more than 20 years. She founded TeraTech in 1989. The company specializes in ColdFusion application development, security and optimization. She has also founded the CFUnited Conference and runs the annual State of the CF Union Survey.