06. Divorce Abroad: His Side of the Story

SummaryWhen Michael Seidl left his job in Germany to follow his wife on an international assignment to the U.S., he stepped into a role few men talk about—the accompanying spouse. What began as an exciting adventure quickly became a test of identity, communication, and resilience as the pandemic hit and life abroad unfolded differently than expected.In this honest and moving conversation, Michael shares what it felt like to lose his professional footing, navigate shifting family dynamics, and confront the quiet loneliness that can come with being the “trailing partner.” He also opens up about the painful reality of how the experience ultimately led to divorce and how he’s learning to rebuild, redefine fatherhood, and rediscover himself in the process.This episode is a rare look into the unspoken side of expat life—the emotional costs, the personal growth, and the courage it takes to start again.TakeawaysMichael's decision to relocate was driven by a sense of adventure.He emphasizes the importance of exploring new environments without expectations.Communication is crucial in managing the challenges of relocation.The role of the accompanying spouse can lead to identity struggles.He found joy in spending quality time with his children during the pandemic.The experience of relocation can magnify existing relationship issues.Michael acknowledges the need for better communication in his marriage.He reflects on the importance of being present for his children post-divorce.Home is defined by the presence of loved ones, not a physical location.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Michael Seidl's Journey04:02 The Adventure of Moving to the US06:04 Expectations and Cultural Differences08:44 Adapting to Life in the US09:51 The Role of the Accompanying Spouse14:03 Communication and Emotional Support16:57 Finding Identity and Purpose19:50 Reflections on American Culture and Identity25:22 Navigating Relationship Challenges27:46 The Impact of Relocation on Relationships29:49 Coping with Separation and Change36:19 Communicating with Children During Divorce37:56 Lessons Learned from Parenting and Divorce41:49 Personal Growth Through Adversity46:22 Defining Home and What Matters Most47:34 Advice for Couples Facing Relocation48:56 Lighthearted Quickfire Questions52:00 Introduction to Exped Insights52:29 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesPodcast GuestMichael Seidlhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/seidl-michael/HostAnnegret Bertschhttps://www.coaching-because.com