06 - The Surprising Truths I Learned After Turning 35

Do you remember the first time you asked yourself if you were old? I was in 4th grade. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought— wow, look how much has changed. And in a year, I’ll be off to middle school. Where is the time going??By 12 I was already contemplating mortality and the meaning of life, unsure but determined to make my one life count. With each passing year, I would bemoan the past and hang on to the good times, crafting scrapbooks and three-ring binders full of pictures taken of my friends, adding graphics and quotes clipped from my favorite magazines. I was too young for nostalgia yet knew the feeling deeply.Not much has changed. In my twenties, I was desperately aware the expiration date on my carefree lifestyle was coming to a close and was about to really understand what a privilege it was to have that my free meal ticket and college tuition provided by my parents. Real life hit hard, as it is designed to, and my relationship with time soured. Time was a resource that was finite, much like my access to cash at 22, and while I could work my way out the building credit card debt, there was nothing I could do to regain the time slipping through my fingers.Selfishly, this is why I wanted to tackle the topic of Age this month. I spent so much of my 34th year around the sun mentally preparing myself for turning 35, last year feels fuzzy and sadly, a bit unfulfilling if I’m being honest. So much of my dialogue was negative and self-pity. Things will never get easier with the kids. I’m too old to wear that. I’m too fat for this. I’ll never look as good as I did before kids. I’m invisible. My opinion doesn’t matter.MY ADVICE ON TACKLING YOUR OWN AGEISM IS THIS:Give yourself permission to grow older.Give yourself the freedom of accepting what is real and what isn’t.Give yourself time to embrace the change what comes with being a dynamic being in this universe.Give yourself the gift of seeing the world for what it is, for the gift of having the peace of mind gives you more time and space to live fully, connect with others, and do work that is free from ego and the need to feel good about yourself. Because the only person who can give you that… is you.We are SO HAPPY that you're here and we LOVE hearing from you! Our email address is [email protected] and you can find us on Instagram @witanddelight_. To stay up to date on all things Wit & Delight, please subscribe to this podcast and sign up for our newsletter here. Artwork Photo by 2nd TruthMusic by Podington Bear-----WIT & DELIGHT SHOW NOTES: http://bit.ly/2FdV7iHFOLLOW WIT & DELIGHT ON INSTAGRAM: @witanddelight_JOIN THE WIT & DELIGHT PODCAST EMAIL LIST: Subscribe Today! Get full access to House Call With Kate Arends at housecall.substack.com/subscribe