066. this is why it’s so hard to “be yourself” (it’s not you, it’s social conditioning) [Day 2 of 12DoBT'22]

Know that you are NOT the problem if you don’t seem to be able to change and see just how far we’ve been brainwashed by historical systems of oppression, how to start recognizing unhelpful social conditioning, and get practical steps to start being your true self. (01:17) understanding how deep social conditioning goes & listening to the desire for personal growth (02:47) defining what truth, reality, and belief really is (07:43) social conditioning is neutral, until it's not (identifying helpful vs. unhelpful conditioning) (09:15) beliefs are changable- but this is why it's so dang hard for so many people (10:43) fear of uncertainty & how evolution has helped and hurt us (12:41) blaming yourself and having self-compassion as you change (18:37) the key to deconditioning & how to discern "truth" by feeling into your body (20:31) discerning your inner critic vs. intuition (25:31) [TW: suicide] sublime conditioning from media & social settings (30:39) 1 major shift that helped me get out of the depression hole (35:34) how diet culture is a byproduct of the patriarchy (38:11) intersectionality & understanding your identities to uncover covert brainwashing (40:00) education status based conditioning (42:35) a hard pill to swallow if you want to grow and evolve (44:56) how to know what you truly want from life and from yourself (47:53) stop suffering so much by creating suffiency and cultivating acceptance in the present (50:16) what you need to hear today (50:47) how to work with me Links Mentioned: ⚡️ Podcast Episode 050. the physics of truth, law of attraction, and empathy with Spyridon Michalakis: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/lSnLWh6xKvb⚡️ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255 (24/7) Online chat: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ (24/7) https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ ⚡️ Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741 (24/7) https://www.crisistextline.org/ ⚡️ The Trevor Project 866-488-7386 (24/7) Text START to 678678. (Mon-Fri 3 p.m. to 10 p.m. EST/12 p.m. to 7 p.m. PST) TrevorCHAT (instant messaging, available sevendays a week 3 p.m. to 10 p.m. EST/12 p.m. to 7 p.m. PST) https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 ⬇️ My Offers ⬇️ ✨ Soul Readings: Tarot Coaching https://www.jencui.com/card-readings ✨ Private Coaching https://www.jencui.com/1on1 ✨ Soulful Sisterhood: Los Angeles based Women’s Circles and Events https://www.jencui.com/soulful-sisterhood 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 🤍 VIBE WITH ME ON SOCIAL: Website: https://www.jencui.com/ Podcast: https://www.jencui.com/podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jencuicoaching/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jencuicoaching