070 - "Don't Shoot Yourself with The Second Arrow"

"Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional." You've probably heard that one. It's not the most useful phrase. There are a lot of really difficult or tragic situations where your pain is going to be accompanied by some suffering. However, the intellectual idea behind that phrase is sound: we can, in moments of more lower-case p pain, pile on all sorts of mental anguish and worry to an already painful situation. Where possible, you want to try to avoid compounding that necessary pain with unnecessary suffering. Today, we've got a tool—"The Second Arrow of Suffering"—that will help you do that, and explain how to use it in a way that's a bit more nuanced than simply saying, "Don't suffer."Join The Growth Equation Academy today. 40% off for a limited time!https://the-growtheq-academy.mn.co/If you are enjoying FAREWELL, do us a huge favor: text your favorite episode to three people so they can enjoy it, too. Thanks! iTunes and Apple Podcasts Spotify Android PocketCasts Got a question, feedback, or ideas for the show? Email [email protected] or leave a voicemail at (646) 893-9503  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.