072 – Heroes And Role Models

Heroes And Role Models… Todays show is a listener inspired episode from a woman in Colorado named Theryn. Yes…we do have females in the listening audience! More and more all the time from what I understand. Theryn asked a question about male role models…or heroes. Because she didn’t have any good role models growing up she used men on the TV shows she watched as her example of manhood and masculinity. Her question is in regard to what my opinion is of using fictional, cinematic figures as role models for masculinity, and if I had any growing up. First I would like to thank Theryn for her question and thanks also for listening, and thanks for the question. If theryn can do it, you can do it. Be like Theryn! The next thing I want to address about this is that to some people it may seem odd that a female is asking a question about male role models…but it isn’t odd at all, and I applaud Theryn for asking. Females need good male role models just as much as guys do. Perhaps for slightly different reasons…but think about it. If a young girl doesn’t have a good male role model, then she has no idea of what to expect, or what to look for, or what to like or dislike about the other half of the population. A woman’s perception of masculinity becomes critical as she gets older and starts choosing male friends, and it gets even more critical as she starts dating and possibly choosing who will become the father of her children. If she has gown up with no male role models whatsoever then she is going into all that completely blind, and being forced to learn from her mistakes. You can imagine what kind of chaos this can result in. Equally devastating, is when a young girl has a bad male role model, and that’s all she has. I’ve seen this happen several times; a girl is raised by a mean, uncaring, distant, altered, or abusive father and to her young mind…that’s how men are supposed to be. Often times girls in this situation grow up and ultimately choose someone just like their dad, because that is what they are used to, that is their comfort zone…and, the cycle continues. In our example today I believe Theryn did exactly the right thing…in the absence of a good male role model she focused on fictional characters from movies and TV to help her learn the difference between good and bad men. By comparing these men to other men in TV and movies she was able to identify those character traits she admired. Now, let me be clear…in the absence of any other positive role models I think this is the next best course of action…but there can be downsides. In her letter she mentioned Jean Luc Picard from star trek the next generation…I agree, he is a fine role model of character and masculinity. BUT, he is a fictional character and someone wrote him that way.<span...