083: How We Transform Conflict into Connection with Kazu Haga

In this conversation, Emily Race-Newmark and Kazu Haga explore the themes of nonviolence, community healing, and the importance of conflict as a regenerative force. They discuss the necessity of grief rituals for collective healing, the experience of living in an intentional community, and the various types and levels of conflict. Kazu emphasizes the significance of storytelling and listening in fostering compassion, as well as the need for collective spaces for grief and healing. The discussion also touches on rethinking accountability in the context of violence and the importance of emotional regulation in managing conflict.FOR CONTINUED PRACTICE:Check out Kazu's Fierce Vulnerability Kinship Lab: a 3 month intensive and other offerings on his website Read Healing Resistance and Fierce Vulnerability by Kazu HagaJoin The Third Space! An online community for revillagers who are putting to practice what we learn on this show, together. In November we are exploring Relational Conflict. TO STAY CONNECTED:Subscribe to This Is How We Care on Substack for full transcript here.Video version of this episode is over at YouTube.Follow @ThisIsHowWeCare and @RevillagingMama on InstagramFollow @KazuHaga on Instagram and Substack Letters to Beloved Community TIMESTAMPS:00:00 The Journey to Healing and Social Change06:17 Collective Trauma and Grief Rituals08:46 Nonviolent Direct Action and Healing Relationships11:35 Integrating Trauma into Activism14:02 Creating Safe Spaces for Racial Healing16:54 The Role of Community in Conflict Resolution19:26 Understanding Conflict Types22:26 Practicing Nonviolence in Daily Life28:03 Practicing Nonviolence: Building New Defaults30:17 Vision for Future Generations: A World of Belonging32:33 Understanding Conflict: The Role of Storytelling36:22 Tools for Emotional Regulation and Healing39:53 Creating Safe Spaces for Grief and Healing42:00 Facilitating Difficult Conversations: Skills and Structures45:58 Rethinking Accountability: From Punishment to Healing49:35 Navigating Conflict: Understanding Levels and Responses52:03 Conflict Journaling: A Practice for Reflection