Stop writing copy. Let your customers write it. Deep dive into emotional targeting w/ Talia Wolf

"What happened in your life that made you look for this tool?"This one question changed how I think about copy.Talia Wolf dropped this on the latest episode of Love at First Try — and I had to sit with it.Talia has been doing conversion optimization for 13+ years. She built the Emotional Targeting methodology and runs GetUplift, an agency that's helped SaaS companies stop guessing and start converting.I wanted her on because she's the person who taught me (through Chris Silvestri) that customers should write your copy — not you.Most SaaS founders are "data-driven." They know their users' job titles, company size, location.But they don't know why people actually buy. So they default to talking about themselves. Features. Pricing. Technology. And their landing page sounds like every other SaaS in their space.Talia's framework flips this. You stop optimizing elements and start solving emotional problems.🧠 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN0:00 - How Talia went from social media marketing to building the emotional targeting methodology4:37 - The survey question that gets customers to write your copy for you9:16 - Why "data-driven" companies still fail at conversion13:35 - A landing page example that nails emotional resonance (Prompt Cowboy)17:37 - How to do emotional targeting when you have multiple ICPs25:33 - The "what would you miss" question that reveals what customers actually value32:14 - Why retention problems are often research problems, not feature problems44:29 - How to actually use AI for customer research without getting garbage50:14 - Why buying decisions now happen off your website (Reddit, LinkedIn, communities)58:36 - How CRO is changing in the age of AI and LLMs💡 STEAL THESE QUICK WINS→ Replace "why did you sign up?" with "what happened in your life that made you look for this?" This forces customers to tell you the trigger, not just the surface reason. You get emotional context, not "pricing" or "needed a tool."→ Ask: "If you could no longer use this product tomorrow, what would you miss most?" Instead of "what do you like about us?" — this reframes around loss. People reveal what they actually depend on, not what sounds polite.→ When using AI for research, demand quotes from your data Tell ChatGPT: "Support every claim with 5 direct quotes from this dataset." Otherwise it hallucinates patterns that don't exist.→ Treat your homepage as a springboard, not a catch-all Different ICPs need different journeys. Let them self-select where to go next instead of trying to speak to everyone at once.→ Optimize your narrative across the web, not just your website Buying decisions happen on Reddit, LinkedIn, YouTube. If you're not shaping the conversation there, you can't influence what AI tells buyers about you.