10 Disciplines Of Love - Honourable Language - with Kelly Brandli

Continuing with their fascinating mini-series, Paul and his special guest, relationship expert Kelly Brandli, talk in detail about the Ten Disciplines Of Love, the concept developed by Tony Robbins in order to allow us to build extraordinary relationships.   In this week’s edition of the series, Kelli and Paul talk about being conscious of the words we use in relationships, the things we say to our partners, and why we should never use language as a weapon.   KEY TAKEAWAYS   Derogatory language, even used briefly and in jest, embeds itself upon the subconscious, and grows incrementally to enforce a negative viewpoint in the long term. Your focus, your physical posture, and your language are the three factors that influence our state of mind and state of being the most. If we change any one of those, we can change our state.  Trying to replace a bad habit is generally hard, but it can be made easier if we replace it with a good habit. We must seek to recognise contempt in our relationships as it begins to emerge, because much like a dry rot, once it sets in, it can be almost impossible to reverse.   BEST MOMENTS   ‘Language is absolutely fundamental to our experiences’ ‘Using sarcastic language or hostile humour is actually a sign of contempt’ ‘It’s almost impossible to see positive qualities in your partner once you’ve developed contempt for them’ ‘Defensiveness is really a way of not taking responsibility for your own mistakes'   VALUABLE RESOURCES   Mastering The Game Of Life  Kelly Brandli - https://www.kellybrandli.com Kelly Brandli Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kellybrandli/ The Ten Principles Of Love at Kelly Brandli.com - https://www.kellybrandli.com/masteringthegameoflife   ABOUT THE HOST   One thing that’s never been attached to Paul is the label ‘normal’ – something he is totally aware of.  He definitely subscribes to being one of those mentioned the iconic ‘Think Different’ Apple commercial narrated by Steve Jobs in 1977:   “Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules.  You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!”   Paul has a long and distinguished history of coaching & mentoring – particularly focusing on helping people make the transition from pain to purpose; a journey he has made himself, from the depths of a deep dark existence, to now living a life of happiness and prosperity.   Through this Mastering The Game Of Life podcast, and books he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.   “Remember – Mastering The Game Of Life Starts, By Embracing Our Hearts!”   CONTACT METHOD   Tel: +44 (0) 115 7270101 E-mail: [email protected] Twitter: https://twitter.com/IAMPaulLowe Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/