10 Disciplines Of Love: Utilisation - Kelly Brandli

In this special ongoing mini-series, Paul and his special guest, relationship expert Kelly Brandli, talk in detail about the Ten Disciplines Of Love, the concept developed by Tony Robbins in order to allow us to build extraordinary relationships. This time, Paul and Kelly discuss the discipline of utilisation, which is built upon higher meaning and constant growth, and why sharing vision and values with our partners is the key to true happiness. KEY TAKEAWAYS In relationships, we often look at our own need for growth, and step outside of the “couple bubble” in order to meet that need. We must endeavour to fulfil these needs from within instead of without. If our values do not align, then it is difficult to hold a shared vision and follow the pursuit of a higher meaning with our partner. By stepping outside of the relationship in order to seek growth, we have a negative impact on the partnership. By seeking to understand and grow together, we become stronger.  When looking for a partner, it’s always wise to favour someone with a growth mindset. Everyone deserves to find someone who sees the benefit of growing with you. BEST MOMENTS ‘We need to have a shared vision for our relationship’ ‘We want to make sure that they are both hiking on the same mountain’ ‘It’s so important to look for ways in which you can do this collectively’ ‘If you dig beyond that first “why”, then you will see that there are points of alignment’ VALUABLE RESOURCES Mastering The Game Of Life  Kelly Brandli - https://www.kellybrandli.com Kelly Brandli Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kellybrandli/ The Ten Principles Of Love at Kelly Brandli.com - https://www.kellybrandli.com/masteringthegameoflife ABOUT THE HOST One thing that’s never been attached to Paul is the label ‘normal’ – something he is totally aware of.  He definitely subscribes to being one of those mentioned the iconic ‘Think Different’ Apple commercial narrated by Steve Jobs in 1977: “Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules.  You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!” Paul has a long and distinguished history of coaching & mentoring – particularly focusing on helping people make the transition from pain to purpose; a journey he has made himself, from the depths of a deep dark existence, to now living a life of happiness and prosperity. Through this Mastering The Game Of Life podcast, and books he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising. “Remember – Mastering The Game Of Life Starts, By Embracing Our Hearts!” CONTACT METHODS Tel: +44 (0) 115 7270101 E-mail: [email protected] Twitter: https://twitter.com/IAMPaulLowe Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/