#10: Kerry Rasenberger: How to heal after toxic relationships and rebuild your life one step at a time

In this episode of Because I Love Myself First, I sit down with Kerry, a powerful life coach who brings both professional expertise and lived experience to the conversation on healing from toxic relationships. We dive into the deep end - talking trauma, recovery, and the emotional rollercoaster of escaping abusive patterns. Kerry shares her raw story, from surviving childhood abuse to breaking free from toxic partners as an adult, and how she’s now using that pain to empower others.Together, we unpack how trauma bonds keep us stuck, why nervous system regulation is key to emotional healing, and how small steps can lead to big transformation. We also explore practical tools to rebuild your self-worth, set healthy boundaries, and rediscover who you are after emotional abuse. Whether you're in the thick of healing or just starting to recognise toxic patterns, this episode is your safe space to feel seen, supported, and inspired to take your power back.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:[0:00] Welcome to the healing journey and why this conversation matters[0:16] Meet Kerry: Life coach and survivor of childhood and adult abuse[1:48] Kerry opens up about her early experiences and trauma[2:59] Spotting toxic relationship patterns before they spiral[6:29] Narcissistic traits and toxic behaviors - what to look out for[13:08] How to handle toxic family dynamics without losing yourself[19:37] Why nervous system regulation is essential for healing[25:11] Understanding trauma bonds and the cycle of emotional abuse[34:20] Building self-trust and setting boundaries that protect your peace[35:57] Rediscovering your passions after toxic relationships[37:33] The connection between self-love, healing, and emotional neglect[40:31] Breaking the cycle and creating lasting change[42:06] The power of small steps and daily healing habits[45:40] How trauma bonds can show up like addictions[53:58] Embracing the non-linear nature of healing[1:00:32] Acknowledging abuse and letting go of shame[1:06:07] Final reflections and grounded advice from KerryLINKS & RESOURCESConnect with Kerry on Instagram hereConnect with me on Instagram hereBook a connection call with me hereIf this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to follow, rate, and review Because I Love Myself First. Sharing your thoughts helps us reach more listeners who are healing from toxic relationships and rediscovering their worth - just like you.Scandinavianz - happydaysCreative Commons - Attribution 3.0 Unported (CC BY 3.0)Free Download: hypeddit.com/scandinavianz/happydays