10. Oversharing or Just Being Real?

At what point does sharing turn into oversharing? Is it when you tell a near-stranger about your mother's complicated relationship with salad? When you explain your latest existential crisis to the Uber driver who only asked if you wanted the radio on? Or when you admit to a friend that you sometimes rehearse conversations in your head before you have them (I mean that sounds right?) — but how do you know the difference? In this episode, Stefanie Michele (coach + somatic practitioner) and Sarah Dosanjh (psychotherapist + author) explore what makes a disclosure feel like "too much." They start by asking who actually gets to decide what's too much, and why the line between connection and cringe depends so much on context. They reflect on their own histories: Sarah admits she's often baffled when people keep things close to the vest, while Stefanie shares how growing up with a nondisclosing mother sometimes felt like rejection. Together, they unpack how family patterns, shame, and the infamous "mother wound" influence what we reveal, what we guard, and what we might later regret saying. The conversation winds through: The nervous energy that leads to blurting things out (and the 3 a.m. spiral that follows) The difference between authentic vulnerability and using personal stories like conversational grenades The awkwardness of being on the receiving end of a stranger's unfiltered life story while trapped in a checkout line The protective function of privacy, and why some people's "TMI" is another person's baseline intimacy The fine line between gossip and sharing — and why intent matters more than the headline Some oversharing is about organizing thoughts out loud, some of it is about wanting to be seen, and some of it is just a nervous system looking for a release valve. The trick, as they argue, is knowing when sharing builds connection — and when it makes both sides wish for an eject button. If you've ever wondered why you said that thing, to that person, at that time (and why you can't stop replaying it), this episode offers perspective, a little humor, and maybe some solidarity in the mess of being human. Love the episode? Leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform — it helps more than you'd think (and yes, we actually read them). Not sure what to write? You can literally just copy and paste this: BEST PODCAST EVER — A UNIQUE REVIEW We won't argue with you. More About Stefanie Michele: Instagram Substack Website: Work With Me Wednesday Emails More About Sarah Dosanjh: YouTube Instagram Website Book: I Can't Stop Eating