10 Self Coaching Questions for Parents of Kids Who Struggle With Mental Health and Substances, with Brenda Zane

ABOUT THE EPISODE:There are moments in this journey when your coach isn't available, your therapist can't be reached, and the community is quiet. It's just you and whatever is unfolding in your relationship with your child,, and you need a way through. This episode has been sitting with me for over a year, and I'm glad it's finally here.What I've seen, in my own experience and in watching parents in our community, is that the biggest shifts come from asking yourself the right question and having the honesty to sit with what comes up. That's what CRAFT and the Invitation to Change have taught me, and it's what I tried to distill into these ten questions.These aren't soft prompts. Some are uncomfortable, which means they're working. They ask you to look at your own role in the family system, your behaviors, your responses, your beliefs, because that is the lever you actually control.I walk through all ten, share why each one matters, and give you the context to use them. YOU’LL LEARN:The question I put first, and why it's the hardest oneWhat the hot stove analogy reveals about your child's behaviorHow most parents accidentally reinforce what they most want to stopThe difference between self-care and self-preservationWhat it means to be addicted to your child's addictionEPISODE RESOURCES:Episode 263 on Natural ConsequencesEpisode 17 on Natural ConsequencesTara Brach on Radical AcceptanceEpisode 276 on acceptanceEpisode 321 on taking care of yourselfEpisode 324 with Rawly Glass on codependencyHelping Families Help - find a CRAFT trained therapistThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereWatch the podcast on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.