#10 The Chimp Paradox (Steve Peters, 2012)

This episode, we spoke about how we can respond to our inner conflicts and negotiate the fundamental internal drives. We talk about ways to manage our 'chimp self' and the impact of self-talk. We expand on how finding a balance between our 'logical' brain and 'chimp' brain can affect our interactions, relationships, confidence and how we react in times of disappointment. We finish with how we can be more compassionate and nurturing to ourselves and our unmet needs. We tie in aspects of habits, attachment theory and the physiology of the brain, from previous episodes. This episode is the origin of the ongoing battle that Will faces with slow walkers and Luke has with his late night pizza cravings.    Hope you enjoy.  Will & Luke   00:15 Introductions (Chimp self vs Human self)  03:45 Our chimp urges and natural drives (Input go through the 'chimp')  09:15 Our 'computer' (pre-programmed reactions and how we cope with inner conflict)  14:15 Replacing gremlins (old destructive reactions) with autopilots (more helpful beliefs and statements). Future programming - 'change'.  20:30 Choice points (internal assumptions 'goblins' and behaviours)  25:15 Goal setting (target goals vs maintenance goals)  37:15 Personality and interactions with others (ingrained behaviours that are predictable)  40:35 Inner self talk  42:35 Chimp self and Human self's view of self (self-judgment vs compassionate response vs logical response)  47:35 'Feeding the chimp a banana' - Luke's pizza craving  53:40 Managing the chimp (boxing the chimp - telling it a truth it will accept) (Exercising the chimp by venting - space to get it off our chest) 58:25 Finding your troop (specifically choosing people around you to provide feedback)  1:03:10 Relationships (what we do accept vs what we don't) Gut instinct vs Logic. Listen to unmet needs.   1:15:15 Confidence (Chimps inability to deal with failure). Confidence from giving things ago and accepting flaws  1:20:00 The way we respond to ourselves  1:22:00 Final reflections   Purchase the book at: https://chimpmanagement.com/books-by-professor-steve-peters/the-chimp-paradox/ This specific episode can also be seen on: https://youtu.be/DJVTubXru18 Check our Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Y_SKLFpax13442jA3giaw/videos Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R1BRcriKWcvOU1XMJQhyW Listen to us on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/will-luke-discuss/id1572512365 Listen to us on Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81Zjk2YTNmYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Also available on: Anchor, Breaker, Pocket Casts, Radio Public.