102 - Toxic Shame and Addiction

Click here to read the episode highlights.    The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). You can connect with Dr. Chip Dodd at [email protected]. Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].    You can also RSVP to Bryan for "Awaken the Heart" on Sunday, March 1 - more details here.   Be sure to subscribe to Dr Chip Dodd’s new Substack. He will be sharing two to three articles a week. The topics focus on healthy relationship, personal growth, and leadership.  What is Substack? It is a subscription-based platform that allows independent writers and other creators to publish content directly to their subscribers’ inboxes. The cost of the subscription is only $7 a month. Dr. Dodd shares content two to three times a week. The content focuses on healthy relationship, personal growth, and leadership. To subscribe, use the link above or go to chipdodd.com.   FREE RESOURCE:  The Toxic Shame Cycle  Go to Free Resources at chipdodd.com   What is Toxic Shame?  Toxic shame is the rejection of healthy shame.    Healthy shame allows us to recognize and accept our dependence upon others and God as we struggle to live fully in a tragic place.    Every child is “okay” being in need. When we lose our ability to be comfortable needing others, we develop toxic shame.    Ultimately, we become (a)shamed, which means “no healthy shame.”   Addiction grows out of the poisonous ground of toxic shame.   As toxic shame is developing, it begins to disrupt our normal sense of inborn  worth.    Every child comes into life with a sense of self-worth. It is a God-given attribute of being created in His image.   Self-worth drives the child to cry out for his/her needs to be met. It drives him/her to have confidence that their craving is good.  Toxic shame occurs when the normal human responses of the child are rejected, neglected, abused, or simply ignored.    Normal human responses are:  feelings needs desire longings hope    Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.