104: How EMDR and Brainspotting Dismantle the Internalized Shame System [Why Women Go To Therapy Series]

In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the core reasons many women seek therapy: shame. But shame isn’t just about feeling bad — it’s a manipulative system that’s often internalized from childhood, society, media, and relationships. Through personal insight and fictional client stories, Kambria walks listeners through how to identify, dismantle, and reclaim power from the shame system using somatic therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting. This episode is both an invitation and a call to action for women to stop outsourcing their self-worth — and start building a new, Self-Led identity from the inside out. 💡 Key Takeaways: Shame is an internal system — not a reflection of truth You weren't born with it — it was programmed into you We often give others (exes, bosses, society) the power to “mirror” who we are — even when they’re not safe or accurate EMDR and Brainspotting help dismantle shame at the body level, not just cognitively Healing isn’t about changing them — it’s about reclaiming yourself Client stories show how freedom feels when shame stops working on you You can receive feedback without shame when you're Self-Led Listener Challenge: Take a moment to notice: Where am I still using an internalized shame system that was never mine to begin with? Then ask: What would it feel like to let that go? Note: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration. Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance:  Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook    We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey.   Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle,  https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources   With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.