104 Why Mental Health Matters with Alex Williams | Ways to improve your mental health | Mental health awareness week

104 Why Mental Health Matters with Alex Williams | Ways to improve your mental health | Mental health awareness week In this episode, Ricky interviews Alex Williams, an emotional resilience coach and registered mental health practitioner. Alex shares his personal story of overcoming trauma and discusses the epidemic of mental health in society. They explore the importance of taking responsibility for our responses to challenges and finding meaning and purpose in life. Alex emphasizes the need for society to prioritize mental health and provides practical tips for building resilience, including focusing on the basics of sleep, nutrition, exercise, and surrounding oneself with good people. They also discuss Alex's Three Rs framework: release your pain, take responsibility, and develop real self-belief. In this conversation, Ricky and Alex discuss strategies for overcoming setbacks and building a fulfilling life. They emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for one's own direction and adopting a resilient mindset. They also explore the idea of aligning one's life with personal values and finding happiness in the present moment. The conversation highlights the need to prioritize self-care and surround oneself with good people and good experiences.By listening to this episode, you will UNLOCK...Mental health is a significant issue in society, and it is important to prioritize our own wellbeing.Taking responsibility for our responses to challenges can empower us to overcome adversity and create a fulfilling life.Building resilience requires focusing on the basics of sleep, nutrition, exercise, and surrounding ourselves with good people.Finding meaning and purpose in life can help us navigate difficult experiences and maintain mental wellbeing.Supporting Gen Z in building resilience involves validating their experiences, providing support, and helping them develop healthy coping mechanisms. Take responsibility for your own direction and approach setbacks with resilience.Build a life that aligns with your values and brings you fulfillment.Prioritize self-care, surround yourself with good people, and enjoy good experiences.Listen to yourself and find happiness in the present moment, rather than comparing your life to societal expectations.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background02:50 Alex's Personal Story07:09 The Epidemic of Mental Health13:19 Taking Responsibility for Our Responses22:13 Finding Meaning and Purpose27:27 The Impact of Society on Mental Health32:47 Supporting Gen Z in Building Resilience39:47 The Basics of Mental Wellbeing43:33 The Three Rs Framework45:24 The Three Rs to Getting Back Up46:23 Building a Life that Aligns with Your Values48:19 Listen to Yourself and Find HappinessPatreon thanks!Shout out to the amazing Patron supporters for keeping this podcast going; thank you Ant Howe, Jasmine Barnes, Chloe Wilmot, Sara Kay, Cheri Brenton, Steve McDermott, Chris Lovett & Rory Barnes! 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So this week, I interviewed Alex Williams, who is an emotional resilience coach and registered mental health practitioner.from surviving a traumatic childhood led by abuse, which marked the murder of his own mother at the age of eight. He now is helping individuals to overcome those daily obstacles and hurdles and help them to deal with what he didn't have when he was young to help them understand how they can focus on their own wellbeing. It's a fantastic episode and we really deep dive into mental health and how we can apply some basic principles to start focus on our wellbeing. Now, if you haven't subscribed already,please hit that subscribe button and leave us a review as well. It helps this podcast get shared to more people. But without further ado, enjoy the episode with Alex Williams. Alex, good to see you, mate. Welcome to Unlocked. How you doing? Yeah, really good, Ricky. Thanks for having me today. Good to have you. And obviously this is probably world first as well because obviously this is gonna be out to the world, but some exciting news has just happened for you. Yes, yes. Had my first baby. Not me, literally.my girlfriend did but yeah, first girl came into the world last week so she'll be seven days old, 11 48 so now one of these parents who yeah people who is describing how old their baby is by days and hours so yeah but yeah it's amazing. Nice yeah yeah. Welcome to the club my friend, welcome to the club. Your iPhone or Android phone whatever will be full of every photo of the world, every angle now of your child so yes and a little girl was it sorry? Yes a little girl called Rosie yeah.Yeah, this could be who knows Rosie might listen to this one day in the future the very first time you did a podcast when she's born Yeah, well, you know that I was I have been thinking about I think what am I putting out into the world now that my girl Is gonna see and yeah, this might be I'll say to her one day You only seven days old when I recorded this so hopefully you've learned something from it. It's not terrible advice, but I'm sure we could make well. Well, yeah, thanks mate for coming on really interested to talk about this You knowRicky (02:22.498)the epidemic of mental health and how I remember as a kid, it wasn't much about this. It was just like book your ideas up son, get on with it. We don't really talk about feelings in this household. But before we dive into it, because I think we're gonna go into quite a lot, I'd love to hear just for the listeners, tell us a little bit about you and tell us a bit about your personal story. So I'm Alex Williams. I am, my background is a...registered mental health nurse for 19 years now. But I also on the side am a speaker and emotional resilience coach. I mean, essentially, it's all the same thing. It's just I use different tags depending on different environments. I mean, yeah, my background is 19 years working in the NHS clinically, which working with people with severe and enduring mental illnesses, assessing, treating, signposting, kind of just find general support.helping people to recover from the things that essentially knock us down in life that can affect our mental health. From a personal perspective, what I add in with my speaking and my coaching aspect more so is that I share my own trauma that I went through. When I was a kid, I grew up in a domestically abusive household. This is following my mum and dad splitting up.My dad had an affair, so my mum fell into an abusive relationship. Witnessed a lot of domestic abuse, especially around him beating up his own children and they were kind of threats towards me and my sister, which my mum managed really well. But by the, when I was at the age of eight, I was kind of living in this household, sleeping kind of in a way you don't realise this is stuff sort of going on. Very naive. It was the middle of the morning, police burst into my bedroom.And I, I'm going to be honest, Ricky, I was, I was, I feel for my mom because I was a nightmare when I was a kid. But I think probably in retro, when I look in hindsight, it was probably because the environment I was in, but I was, you know, I just misbehaving a lot and stuff. So I kind of was like, well, these police, they might be here, you know, because I thought police were just there to arrest bad people. I thought maybe I've done something wrong and they're here to nick me. And when they were taking me down the stairs in my pyjamas and they put me in the police car, took me to this police station.Ricky (04:45.878)and my sister was with me at the time. That's kind of what I thought was happening. I just had no idea what I was about to walk into. But then these police sat me down and said, um, your mum's dead, Alex. To me and my sister. And obviously I didn't know much at the time, but then a couple of days later from watching the news, I found out she'd been killed by my stepdad. So then my world kind of went from being a very, well, it wasn't normal because of the environment I was in, but.what felt like, you know, I had a mum, I had a dad, I had grandparents, I was at school. It felt to me relatively normal, but then to be suddenly the kid who everyone else has got a mum, I haven't. And she hasn't just gone like, you know, through something not normal, but you know, like an illness or something like, she's been killed by someone, you know, who I was living with, and she was in the room next door to me. So my world kind of changed in that sense. And, but...Speaking about, you know, mental health and like you just said about how we used to get taught to just get on with it That was kind of how I was raised immediately following that situation And you know what on the outside I grew up in an environment where I had money. I had lots of money You know, my dad was a successful lawyer He basically his way of raising us was like right I'm gonna send give you everything you need financially You know materialistically big house loads of landstuff like that. So from the outside, it looked like almost we've fallen into a dream scenario, given what I've been through. But that kind of attitude of, well, you just need to get on with it. You know, we didn't really ever speak about it. We never spoke about what happened whenever we were, I was upset about anything. It was kind of like, you just had to get on with it, be grateful for what you do have because I've been given all this stuff. I should be happy. So really all that kind of emotion.and grief I was experiencing, I just stuffed it all down. Stuffed it all down and in a way, I thought I was being resilient, you know? But really I was just people pleasing. I didn't want, I wasn't sharing what I was really feeling with my dad and the environment I was with because I didn't want to upset them. So I wasn't really being resilient. I was just suppressing and repressing what I was going through. But I wasn't mentally unwell, you know? I was just cracking on with life. You know, I was good at football. I messed around at school, but I wasn't in the worst situation. And I kind of...Ricky (07:09.662)live my life like that but I didn't really ever know what I wanted to do with my life. You know, I kind of in underneath all this, this kind of seed that I never really, this wound that I never got to look at kind of became this kind of weed within me that I wasn't aware of where I was kind of, oh I've got a murdered mum, yes I've got this stuff but I'm damaged, I can't really do anything and equally I've got a dad who I just want to impress and please him as best I can. So I kind of the that...that light within me that kind of had this curiosity to explore and try new things in the world, kind of just dampened out. So as I got, as I left school, left sixth form, I didn't really get any good grades because I just was messing around and I didn't really know what I wanna do in my life. And I fell into mental health nursing, which it turns out was a good thing. But people asked me, Alex, why did you beco