#105: Tracy Otsuka Teaches Women How To Own Their ADHD: Part 2

Send us Fan MailWe begin part two with this doozy: Tracy Otsuka shares that she never struggled with motherhood. Why? Her husband served as her executive functioning, and they split tasks based on what they were both good at. Revolutionary, huh? In this episode...Tracy gives us the most beautiful reality check about what it really means to be a "good mom." It's about emotional connection, not the "administrative crap.""What happens to women with ADHD is that they feel they cannot be who they truly are." Tracy's goal is to help women be more of who they really are, not less.Main character mom goals: Tracy's parenting goal was that her kids grow up to be proud of her. She reminds us how important it is that we "show our daughters what it looks like to be ourselves.""You wouldn't call it people pleasing if you really wanted to do it." We discuss how people pleasing shows up in ADHD motherhood. Tracy talks about using positive and negative emotions a barometer to recognize when we are doing things for the right reasons.  Tracy reminds us of the power and importance of gratitude for ADHD women, especially as a tool to combat the negativity and worry when we are stuck in default mode network (DMN). ABOUT TRACY OTSUKATracy Otsuka, JD, is a certified ADHD coach and the host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast. Over the past decade, she has empowered thousands of clients (from doctors and therapists to C-suite executives and entrepreneurs) to see their neurodivergence as a strength–not a weakness. Tracy leverages her analytical skills from being a lead counsel at the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission to identify the right questions to ask her clients so they can boost their productivity, improve their finances, save failing relationships and live happier lives.Tracy’s expertise and experience as an adult living with ADHD are regularly sought out by top tier media including Inc, Forbes, ADDitude magazine, and The Goal Digger Podcast.  She hosts her own podcast which ranks #1 in its category and has over 5 million downloads across 160 countries. She also moderates a Facebook group with nearly 100,000 members. A married mother of two, Tracy lives in Sonoma County outside of San Francisco.Tracy's website: https://www.tracyotsuka.com/Tracy's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/adhd-for-smart-ass-women-with-tracy-otsuka/id1443678424Tracy's instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tracyotsuka/?hl=enIf you are nodding your head to everything in this episode, and you've been looking for your people and feel like you've FINALLY found them, please join us in the ADHD Mom Club. We cannot wait to see you there:https://www.motherplusser.com/ADHD-mom-club-waitlistWHERE TO FIND US NOWConnect with Stacey🎧 The Next Phase Podcast —  on Apple & Spotify 📸 Instagram: @stacehutsonConnect with Steph🎧 The Peri-Normal Podcaston Apple and Spotify✍️ The Reclamation Eraon Substack📝 MidCircle— a writing community for midlife women📸 Instagram: @stephsprenger