#106 | How Can We Make Marriage Great Again?

In this episode I sat down with Shah from his ‘This is Shah’ channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thisisshahWe dove into why the divorce rate is so high and what’s happening with modern dating and relating? Shah is extremely knowledgeable about family law and the court systems and we have an extensive conversation about dowry and bride price systems from the past.Listen in to learn about whether the dowry has wisdom we could implement today, why caricatures of men and women are shaping modern dating dilemmas, Barbies and Bugattis, whether Andrew Tate would become monogamous if he was presented with a dowry, what the purpose of a prenup is and why it began, what the three stages of relating are based on David Deida’s work are, which stage are we in now, how we can define actually love? And so much more.Such a great conversation with Shah, enjoy. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer and Intro00:30 - 01:39 Episode Overview and 'This is Shah' Introduction01:39 - 03:40 Who is 'This is Shah'03:40 - 04:44 Is a dowry a sacrifice?04:44 - 06:59 Is a dowry tantamount to buying someone06:59 - 09:33 Bride price is a compensation for labour value lost by the bride's family09:33 - 10:35 Why did we move from bride price to dowry10:35 - 12:44 When did people start hating dowry and bride price rituals12:44 - 14:53 Did feminism start because men stopped paying dowries?14:53 - 17:25 'You're a high status man if you can manage a housewife'17:25 - 19:11 Courtly love and romance used to be separate from marriage19:11 - 21:16 Love means something different to almost everyone21:16 - 22:36 Alex and Leila Hormozi's relationship22:36 - 23:54 What is love?23:54 - 25:16 Dowry payments are much like child support payments25:16 - 28:08 Why prenups are funny to me28:08 - 29:29 The three stages of relating29:29 - 32:05 Andrew Tate is the male version of The Barbie ideal32:05 - 32:46 What is the number one thing that any woman wants32:46 - 35:19 The Quiet Man35:19 - 37:09 The second stage of relating37:09 - 39:45 Dowry societies see fewer divorces than bride price societies39:45 - 41:50 Society has abandoned initiations41:50 - 43:46 Does being religious reduce divorce rates?43:46 - 47:20 Your upbringing determines your choice of romantic partners47:20 - 48:30 Did no-fault divorce make it too easy to separate48:30 - 52:03 Did industrialism ruin it for women52:03 - 53:57 Why I believe hooking up is bad for you53:57 - 55:50 What do you bring to the table?55:50 - 58:26 What is a good romantic scenario when two people meet58:26 - 01:01:50 Look at their credit report before getting married01:01:50 - 01:02:48 How to really lower divorce rates01:02:48 - 01:05:28 The only good thing about red pill 01:05:28 - 01:06:12 The Romance game01:06:12 - 01:07:04 The hedonism wall01:07:04 - 01:12:21 Can women stick with you when you have nothing01:12:21 - 01:13:18 Is income separate from attraction01:13:18 - 01:17:35 Are there other men besides Nice guys and Bad boys01:17:35 - 01:21:09 What is missing from how we behave these days?01:21:09 - 01:23:35 My take on how to change the world of dating01:23:35 - 01:26:37 how would I get Andrew Tate to be monogamous01:26:37 - 01:28:40 Beauty that inspires action in a man01:28:40 - 01:29:45 The one point men should take from this conversation01:29:45 - 01:30:49 Key takeaways for women01:30:49 - 01:31:27 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com