107. Say What You Really Want: Create Connection & Real Intimacy With Your Spouse (And Become A Better Leader While Doing It)

Identifying and expressing your desires is one of the most important aspects of real intimacy. However, I frequently see couples struggle with this–both with knowing what they want and also being able to say it to one another. Some people have no idea where to begin in order to figure out what they desire. Others know exactly what they want but don't know how to say it clearly, or they find it prohibitively uncomfortable to do so. And then some people don't know what they want nor how to say it. It can be helpful when your spouse asks you, "what do you want?" But that question has at least two different meanings, with two very different contexts. It's important to be able to distinguish between them. In one context the question is genuinely about you and your desires, and in the other it's about the question asker's needs in that moment. In this episode you'll learn: Two different contexts and meanings that become relevant when you're asked what you want and how to respond to each one Tactics to help you discover what you really want Why it's important to give yourself time to identify what you want, and then share it …plus much more. Since it's the beginning of a new year, I know you may be setting goals and intentions–doing so requires you to tap into your desires and navigate any blocks you have. I hope this episode helps you in achieving that. January Uncompromising Intimacy Workshop: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/workshop/ Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Website | Linkedin | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day. For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.