#107 | The Missing Piece Behind the ‘Mental Load’ Debate - Men and Respect Pt 1

In this episode I dive into the conversation about mental load and why it doesn’t land with men. Women talk about this so often but don’t understand that the entire conversation is laced with a deep lack of respect for men.Listen in to learn about a story from an elder woman from my family, how men and women fundamentally don’t share the same language of respect, how men thrive in hierarchies, why ‘she’s the boss’ kills relationships between men and women, and why the ‘mental load’ debate will never actually land on a solution if we keep going the way we are.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:53 Episode Trailer and Overview00:53 - 01:53 How women disrespect men without knowing it01:53 - 04:58 This is what men want to experience04:58 - 05:52 Men and women have different ideas about what respect means05:52 - 07:26 It's more impactful to a man to be respected than to be loved07:26 - 08:52 The best definition of respect I've ever heard08:52 - 10:59 Men understand and live by hierarchies in a way that women don't10:59 - 12:24 Men take each other at face value12:24 - 13:51 How women inappropriately question men13:51 - 17:55 Why couples splitting 50/50 is a flawed idea17:55 - 20:04 The outcomes of the 'Mental Load' Conversation20:04 - 22:00 What do men really want?22:00 - 24:30 Avoid this if you want your husband to be the CEO of your family24:30 - 24:57 Final takeaways and thoughts24:57 - 25:35 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com