108: The Fixer / Rescuer / Helper in Relationships: My Story

Have you ever found yourself drawn to people who are “projects”? Do you tend to over-function in relationships, always fixing, rescuing, or holding everything together?In this vulnerable and powerful solo episode, I share my personal journey of becoming the fixer—how this survival strategy took root in my childhood, shaped my romantic and platonic relationships, and ultimately became an addiction rooted in trauma. From love addiction to burnout, I unpack the emotional cost of over-responsibility and the path I took to begin healing, feeling, and reclaiming myself.This episode is for you if:You constantly attract emotionally unavailable or chaotic partnersYou feel responsible for other people’s healing or happinessYou’ve lost yourself in trying to be “the helper”You're ready to stop managing relationships and start being in themWe’ll explore how early trauma teaches us to fix, why it becomes so addictive, and how to begin shifting these patterns somatically—with compassion, not shame.JOIN THE FREE MASTERCLASS: https://marinayt.com/masterclass-stop-being-a-fixer❥Join HeartSpace monthly community with a free trial: ⁠⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠⁠❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Fixing became a way to numb the pain of my childhood.”“If you don’t show yourself, what are people going to see?”“Being the helper isn’t love—it’s a role we play to feel safe.”“I wasn’t in the relationship. I was managing it.”fixer in relationships, rescuer complex, love addiction, trauma healing, cptsd recovery, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, childhood trauma, people pleasing, emotional codependency, trauma-informed healing, attachment wounds, healing relationships, helper syndrome, inner child healing