#108 | The Missing Piece Behind the ‘Mental Load’ Debate Pt 2 - Modernization

I land the ‘mental load’ conversation in this episode. This is part 2 of a two part exploration.In this episode I break down why the idea of ‘mental load’ takes away from our biological inclinations as men and women. The truth is there is no such thing as invisible labor & visible labor. There is men’s labor and women’s labor and we’ve lost sight of that as a society due to industrialization and modernization.Listen in to learn about how the sacred separation between men and women got lost, what would happen if boys were on an equal playing field with girls, why there is no such thing as 50/50 in relationships, how the idea of ‘mental load’ is actually extremely sexist, and more.I reference Mary Harrington, author of Feminism Against Progress & her recent writing via her substack, the reactionary feminist. TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer And Intro00:30 - 01:06 I'm finally back home01:06 - 03:02 Should men be doing 50% of household labor03:02 - 06:37 What is Mental Load?06:37 - 07:42 Feminism against progress07:42 - 09:21 Stop treating men like hairy women09:21 - 10:43 Does childbirth expand sex differences10:43 - 13:19 Did modernization create sexist or genderless roles13:19 - 15:15 We've been helping girls at the cost of boys15:15 - 17:20 Are women fulfilled17:20 - 19:22 Gender used to be vernacular19:22 - 20:50 The importance of preserving same-sex spaces20:50 - 23:01 Are men and women different?23:01 - 24:58 Why doesn't the Mental Load conversation land?24:58 - 27:44 Men don't fit in to women's spaces27:44 - 29:28 Women just want to feel safe29:28 - 30:40 Final thoughts and key takeaways30:40 - 31:19 Outro_______________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com