109 - Resistance to Change (Part 2)

Click here to read the episode highlights.   The "Living with Heart" Podcast is brought to you by Chip Dodd Resources (www.chipdodd.com) and The Voice of the Heart Center (vothcenter.com). You can connect with Dr. Chip Dodd at [email protected]. Contact Bryan Barley for coaching at [email protected].    Be sure to subscribe to Dr Chip Dodd’s new Substack. He will be sharing two to three articles a week. The topics focus on healthy relationship, personal growth, and leadership. Dr. Dodd shares content two to three times a week. To subscribe, use the link above or go to chipdodd.com.   Recover is not a pill > Recovery is a path. Recovery is not a quick fix  >  Recovery is a lifestyle, lived one day at a time.   Recovery allows us to live with a “new set of glasses.”   People in recovery no longer see life through the “tinted glasses” that denial gives them, but they begin to live in clear reality.   A person no longer sees life through the “foggy” glasses of denial, but a person begins to live in reality.   While recovery has thousands upon thousands of personal benefits, the personal benefits do not mean that you’re the loved ones will change along with you, join you, or even be willing to participate with you. This reality is called resistance to change.   Resistant to change can be in the “main person” who has a clear and primary addiction, or it can be in the “co-addict,” or the one who has enabled, adjusted to, joined in, or “put up with” the primary addiction.    The condition of a “co-addict” is addressed in the Codependency Episodes, 32-44.   Resistance to Change Resistance to change is not rooted in a negative motivation. The soil out of which it grows is about not being willing to be controlled by “forces” that may not want my good. For example, in World War II, the French RESISTANCE fought the German forces from behind enemy lines to keep them from taking over or controlling the French homeland.   However, resistance that is an unwillingness to grow or change will yield “negative” consequences. This negative fruit can come from roots of terror, toxic shame, fear of loss, and secrecy. Sadly, this resistance can lead to control addiction.    This control addiction can be in the “main” person or the “co-addict” as mentioned above.   The way to assess resistance as positive or negative starts with grasping the meaning of admission and surrender.   Click here to continue reading the episode highlights.