#11| 1 in 4: Miscarriage & Pregnancy Loss — Why It Happens, What It Means, + What to Do Next

You’ve probably heard the phrase “1 in 4”… but behind that number are real women, real grief, and real silence. If hearing statistics makes your stomach drop — or pulls you right back to that moment — I want you to take a breath with me. This episode is a gentle space to talk about what the numbers actually mean, why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than anyone talks about, and what healing can look like when your world has changed. Have you ever thought, “I didn’t know this was common… I thought it was just me”? Do you find yourself replaying the “what ifs” and wondering if you caused it? Have you felt like the statistic validates you… and yet somehow still makes you feel erased? Do you need someone to say, clearly: this isn’t your fault — and you don’t have to earn the right to grieve? In this episode, we’re taking the “1 in 4” statistic and putting a human heart back inside it. Because when no one talks about pregnancy loss, you don’t just grieve the baby — you start grieving your confidence. You start questioning your body. You start carrying shame that was never yours to carry. We talk about what the stats really say, why pregnancy loss happens (especially early loss), and why so many women blame themselves for things that weren’t in their control. And I say this plainly in the episode, but I’m going to say it here too: You didn’t cause this. This isn’t your fault. And you don’t have to earn the right to grieve. We also name something important: sometimes “common” doesn’t feel comforting — it can feel infuriating. Like you’re being turned into a number instead of honored as a mother with a story. So we talk about how to let the information validate you without letting it erase you. And then we move into the part so many women need next: what healing can look like (no timelines, no pressure), how to get out of the “what if” spiral, how to ask for what you actually need, and when it’s time to reach for professional support. What You’ll Hear in This Episode what “1 in 4” actually means and why it matters why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than people talk about a grounded explanation of common causes of early pregnancy loss (without blame) myth vs truth for the thoughts that shame loves to use (“I caused it,” “my body failed”) what healing can look like in real life (not Pinterest healing — real healing) simple, one-sentence ways to ask for support when you don’t even know what you need   This Weeks Journal Prompt “What does hearing these statistics make me feel about my own loss — or the losses of women I love? What do I want to say to myself right now?” If This Episode Resonated, Listen Next Episode 1: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For — if you’re still in shock or early survival mode Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like — if you feel like you “should be over it by now” Episode 4: Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible — if the silence from others has made everything heavier If you know someone who has ever whispered, “I thought it was just me,” send them this episode. Not because it fixes anything — but because it names the truth. And naming the truth is how shame starts to loosen. If you want quieter support between episodes, I’d love to welcome you into my private email community — gentle reflections, reminders, and support that doesn’t require you to explain yourself.  Pick one friend you know has experienced loss (even years ago) and send this exact text with the episode link: “I thought of you when I listened to this. No pressure to respond — I just wanted you to know you’re not alone.”   This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. I’m also not a doctor or licensed healthcare provider. If you have questions about your specific health or pregnancy history, please reach out to your doctor, midwife, or medical provider. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.