EPISODE · Jun 17, 2026 · 17 MIN
11. Grieving the Divorce You Chose: Why the Right Decision Can Still Hurt
from When The Fairy Tale Ends · host Raquell Barton, Certified Divorce Coach®
Ending a marriage can be the right decision and still break your heart.This episode is about one of the most misunderstood parts of divorce: the grief that comes even when you're the one who decided to leave. Because choosing divorce doesn't protect you from mourning the life, identity, and future you thought you were building.Raquel explores the layers of loss that many women aren't prepared for—from grieving the imagined future and the version of yourself that existed within the marriage to navigating the disruption of routines, traditions, and family dreams.She also breaks down how the five stages of grief can show up during divorce, why healing is never linear, and the powerful truth that relief and grief can coexist.If you've ever found yourself asking, "If this was the right decision, why does it hurt so much?" this episode is for you.In This Episode, We Cover:Why choosing divorce doesn't eliminate griefThe hidden losses women experience beyond the end of the relationshipHow divorce can impact your identity, routines, and sense of futureThe five stages of grief and how they appear during divorceWhy healing isn't a straight lineThe difference between grief and regretHow to hold both relief and sadness at the same timePractical ways to move through grief with self-compassionYou can book a Free 60-minute Divorce Consultation Call: https://herdivorceacademy.com/program/book-a-coaching-fit-callHave a question? Ask here! HerdivorceacademyDivorce HotlineConnect with Raquell on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/herdivorceacademy/Have a Dear Raquell question you want answered on the podcast?📩 Email your anonymous story to [email protected]
What this episode covers
Ending a marriage can be the right decision and still break your heart.This episode is about one of the most misunderstood parts of divorce: the grief that comes even when you're the one who decided to leave. Because choosing divorce doesn't protect you from mourning the life, identity, and future you thought you were building.Raquel explores the layers of loss that many women aren't prepared for—from grieving the imagined future and the version of yourself that existed within the marriage to navigating the disruption of routines, traditions, and family dreams.She also breaks down how the five stages of grief can show up during divorce, why healing is never linear, and the powerful truth that relief and grief can coexist.If you've ever found yourself asking, "If this was the right decision, why does it hurt so much?" this episode is for you.In This Episode, We Cover:Why choosing divorce doesn't eliminate griefThe hidden losses women experience beyond the end of the relationshipHow divorce can impact your identity, routines, and sense of futureThe five stages of grief and how they appear during divorceWhy healing isn't a straight lineThe difference between grief and regretHow to hold both relief and sadness at the same timePractical ways to move through grief with self-compassionYou can book a Free 60-minute Divorce Consultation Call: https://herdivorceacademy.com/program/book-a-coaching-fit-callHave a question? Ask here! HerdivorceacademyDivorce HotlineConnect with Raquell on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/herdivorceacademy/Have a Dear Raquell question you want answered on the podcast?📩 Email your anonymous story to [email protected]
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