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EPISODE · Mar 8, 2026 · 14 MIN

(#110) The Myth of Being Chosen: Creating a Life on Your Terms

from EmpowerHER · host Diana DeBolt

In this episode of the EmpowerHER Podcast, Diana explores how women are conditioned to seek validation by being chosen, in dating, careers, friendships, and opportunities, instead of choosing for themselves.Using cultural examples and personal experience, she explains how waiting to be chosen can lead to settling, shrinking, and tolerating less than what you truly want. She shares how shifting toward intentional decision-making helped her approach relationships and life from a place of agency rather than approval.The episode encourages listeners to stop auditioning for validation, define their standards, and start choosing what truly aligns with them.00:40 — The conditioning to be picked01:41 — A culture that rewards being chosen04:25 — How waiting to be chosen shows up06:08 — Why being chosen feels safe08:26 — Learning to choose in love11:15 — The "choose yourself" playbook12:55 — Questions to help uncover where you may still be waiting for validation.Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching Email- [email protected] - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ Instagram -  @coachdianadeboltTiktok - @coachdianadeboltIf you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!

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