110: Why She’s Not in the Mood—And How to Change That - Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive - Skills For Reviving Female Sexual Desire, When He Wants More, You Want Less

In this episode of All Things Love and Intimacy, Katie Ziskind talks about one of the most common struggles in heterosexual relationships: when the man has a higher sex drive and the woman feels like her sexual desire has faded—or vanished completely. Are you a male partner wanting more frequent sex? Are you a husband who is wanting to support your female spouse in building a sexually embodied and sexually empowered relationship with her sexuality, body, and sex drive, which then can improve your sex life as a couple? Wanting deeper intimacy and to have a safe, confidential space with Katie Ziskind to talk about your sexual development, messages around sex, religious trauma, sexual needs, desires, feelings, and expression? Or, are you a female who has always felt that your body was "for male pleasure" and feel like you've never experienced true sexual pleasure, bu have always been curious about mind-blowing orgasming? Are you a female was has experienced past sexual trauma, abuse, rape, or molestation, which seems to be re-triggered in sexual experiences today? This mismatch in libido can create frustration, tension, emotional disconnection, and even resentment in a marriage or long-term partnership. But there’s hope, and it starts with understanding why this happens and what you can do to bring the passion back. As a trauma-informed, sex-positive marriage specialist, Katie Ziskind helps couples go beyond surface-level “fixes” to uncover the real reasons why desire can drop—especially for women. Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional and trauma specialized marriage counselor, talks about the powerful connection between emotional intimacy and physical desire, how past sexual trauma can affect libido years later, and why daily stress, feeling unappreciated, or not feeling safe can completely shut down your sex drive. You’ll get practical, science-backed tips to improve sexual desire, from increasing non-sexual affection to scheduling sensual connection time, to learning how to communicate about sex without shame, guilt, or defensiveness. Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional and trauma specialized marriage counselor, covers how to slow down, build sexual anticipation, and make foreplay a part of everyday life—not just something that happens right before sex. Whether you’re in a relationship where sex feels like it’s become a chore, you’re craving more passion but don’t know how to get it, or you’ve been hurt by rejection and want to heal, this episode will give you hope and concrete tools. If you’ve been searching for answers to “how to increase female sex drive,” “low libido help for women,” “how to match my partner’s sex drive,” or “ways to build sexual intimacy,” you’re in the right place. It’s time to restore your desire, feel confident in your body, and enjoy a satisfying sex life again. Katie Ziskind, certified sex therapy informed professional and trauma specialized marriage counselor, is the owner of Wisdom Within Counseling and Coaching. Book your private coaching or couples therapy session today at wisdomwithinct.com and take the first step toward passion, connection, and intimacy.