111. " I Should Have Known Better"

Today I validate the emotional turmoil following divorce and betrayal, focusing on the pervasive tendency to self-blame and shame our past self for "Not knowing what we should have known". By exploring the cognitive and psychological reasons behind such reactions, including the brain's mechanisms for dealing with trauma, I share a compassionate perspective. The episode offers practical steps for healing and making a shift towards having an EMPOWERED DIVORCE. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:20 The Journey of Ups and Downs 01:17 Feeling Alone in the Divorce Aisle 02:03 Self-Doubt and Blame 02:41 Understanding Trauma and Control 06:01 Cognitive Dissonance and Betrayal 09:37 Impact on Future Relationships 10:12 Acceptance and Healing 11:13 Understanding Emotional Responses to Betrayal 12:02 Shifting Your Mindset: Awareness and Reframing 14:49 Embracing Self-Compassion and Healing 16:08 Empowerment Through Present Choices 17:09 The Gift of a New Day 18:53 Invitation to Brainspotting ________________________________________________ WOMEN SUPPORTING WOMEN FACEBOOK GROUP facebook.com/groups/theempowereddivorce ⁠BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go,  I realized that there is no 'right' choice-  but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it. RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT Book Your Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn More About Assessment ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ : Next one AUGUST 29th Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book you Brainspotting session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ____________________________________________ Musicbed -January 8, 2024 The Music Bed, LLC ("MB") approves the use of "Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental" (Composition(s) and Master(s)) for intro "intro" (the "Production") pursuant to your request date January 8, 2024 as follows: SECTION I Composition/Master: Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental Artist(s): Summer Kennedy Duration: 3:05 Licenses: Individual / Podcaster / No Client Work / #divorce #betrayal #abuse #divorcesupport #lifeafterdivorce #empowereddivorce #ishouldhaveknownbetter #coparenting #narcissism #divorcehelp