115 | Choose Greatness (Dr. Clarence Shuler)

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Dr. Clarence Shuler Dr. Clarence and Brenda are parents to three young adult daughters (he's the minority in their sorority), author, marriage counselor, speaker, and life & relationship coach. He is the President/CEO of BLR: Building Lasting Relationships. For nearly 35 years, Clarence and Brenda have conducted marriage, discipleship, men's, women's, and single seminars internationally. They are members of FamilyLife Weekend To Remember Marriage Conference Speaker Team. Recently, Clarence was a marriage expert on Oprah Winfrey's Love Goals reality show. Episode Notes 1:00 - PRAYER from 2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he answered me, "My grace is always more than enough for you, and my power finds its full expression through your weakness." So I will celebrate my weaknesses, for when I'm weak I sense more deeply the mighty power of Christ living in me" 2:12 - thanks for sharing dadAWESOME on social media 2:30 - check out the YouTube channel: https://bit.ly/YouTubeDAsubscribe 3:00 - DA Daily - text the word "dad" to the number 33222 3:30 - Jeff's introduction of Dr. Clarence Shuler 4:55 - Dr. Clarence introduces himself (see bio above) 6:06 - Being a dad to three girls 7:20 - "The most important thing any dad can do is spend more time with their kids" 7:30 - "Quality time comes from quantity of time" 8:15 - Be accessible. Keep the door open. 8:45 - Love your kids mother. When kids see a dad love their mother it gives the kids important security 9:22 - Marriage tips 9:30 - "How I treat my wife is a reflection of how I love God" 9:50 - Pray with your wife 9:55 - "That closeness with your wife lets her bloom. She can't be the woman God designed her to be until she feels security from us" 10:25 - Be a servant leader 12:03 - My girls belong to God. I'm just a steward. 12:20 - What we do with our kids impacts our children's children. You're impacting generations 13:52 - Importance of focussing on your kids from birth through 10 years old 14:30 - The value of mentorship 15:00 - Spotting a mentor that he pursued 16:00 - You can get a lot of wisdom from your wife if you're brave enough to ask for it 16:25 - Learning to apologize to your kids 17:12 - The Fatherhood Commission 18:15 - Learning to heal the father wound 18:50 - Writing a letter to your dad... Bringing closure and healing. 20:00 - The video about honoring your father and writing intentional letters: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-wG04x288c 20:30 - The Book "Choose Greatness" 21:00 - I wrote this book because I wanted to spend more time with my mentor and spiritual father 23:00 - This book was written for a 10 year old boy through men in their 20's 24:00 - Steps towards growing a mentor relationship into a spiritual father relationship 24:45 - Older guys really love it when young men come asking for wisdom 25:12 - Go ask that guy... Don't hesitate to acknowledge something you see and ask that mentor for a meeting 26:30 - Time machine advice = spend more time and pray more with your kids 27:25 - You're launching your kids... You can't spend too much time with your kids 28:45 - The importance of dads knowing what their kids are doing on the internet 29:18 - Get someone to mentor you who is a leader 29:39 - Dr. Clarences prayer over all of us Episode Links Choose Greatness: 11 Wise Decisions that Brave Young Men Make Paperback by Gary Chapman & Dr. Clarence Shuler Other books from Dr. Clarence Shuler Building Lasting Relationships