115: The Self-Esteem Movement Was a Political Stunt

Tired of being told to just love yourself? US TOO! Today we're digging into the self-esteem movement — where it came from, why it didn't work, and what to chase instead.In conversation, we tackle: The 1980s California politician who sold self-esteem as a "social vaccine" against crime, addiction, dropouts, and welfare dependency What the big 2003 research review actually found self-esteem delivers (spoiler: feeling good, and basically nothing else) Why the most aggressive people tend to have high self-esteem, not low and what "threatened egotism" has to do with the angry men in power right now How "you are your only limitation" sets people up to fail and then blame themselves Why self-esteem is a flimsy thing to build a life on and what self-worth and self-compassion do instead The permission slip: you don't have to like yourself to have the thing you want If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU!We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.comTo learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 43 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.